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Guys: What do you think of girls doing the asking out?

catsushicatsushi Registered User Posts: 1,970 Senior Member
edited October 2008 in College Life
To anyone who has an opinion on this topic, what do you think of girls asking out guys?


PS: Title fail, oh well.
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Replies to: Guys: What do you think of girls doing the asking out?

  • liek0806liek0806 Registered User Posts: 3,316 Senior Member
    I think most guys will say that they completely love it or aren't opposed to it.
    But the reality is, is that if the guy hasn't asked you out, its either because 1 of 2.
    1. He's just not into you.
    2. He's shy.

    You can tell the difference by the simple chemistry between the two of you. If he doesn't take an interest in you, ie doesn't asks you questions about you, he's not usually around you, etc he's not into you.
  • raiderfan4evaraiderfan4eva Registered User Posts: 239 Junior Member
    liek09, i so agree with everything you just said!
  • legendofmaxlegendofmax Registered User Posts: 4,737 Senior Member
    I can definitely say that I like a girl who at leasts shows some form of obvious interest so it makes it easier for me to ask them out, lol.

    I'm an *extremely* shy person.
  • ElectricTechElectricTech Registered User Posts: 882 Member
    I don't mind it at all, plus I'm shy as well.
  • Mr. BojanglesMr. Bojangles Registered User Posts: 824 Member
    It's whatever...whoever gets to the point first doesn't really matter to me, as long as we end up going somewhere in the end.
  • catsushicatsushi Registered User Posts: 1,970 Senior Member
    I've been asked out by several guys but I'm just not sure I'm into them. Meanwhile there is this guy I am into but I'm wondering if I should just take matters into my own hands and try asking him out. I don't think I have ever done that before, though, haha.
  • DuperDuper - Posts: 1,125 Senior Member
    Girls who ask me out are usually girls who I have no interest in... It's nice, though.
  • chuychuy Registered User Posts: 3,917 Senior Member
    If you think a guy likes you then go for it I suppose. I've only been asked out by girls who I wasn't interested in at all, but there have been girls who, had they asked me out, I would have said yes. I just never got around to actually asking them or was pursuing someone else at the time. It certainly won't hurt your chances with a guy.
  • hikidshikids Registered User Posts: 1,284 Senior Member
    Culturally it makes sense as roles are changing over time and more and more women are preparing for careers. The personality that drives career motivations would likely drive less demure behavior when it comes to dating.
  • spdfspdf Registered User Posts: 955 Member
    No objections here, although I'm not sure the odds would end up being any better than they would be going the other way around. This just puts the awkward on the other foot.
  • catsushicatsushi Registered User Posts: 1,970 Senior Member
    My thing has always been to wait for the guy to ask me out, after a series of obvious hints and etc, because when they do it actually means they want to go out with me. I also feel like girls asking guys out makes them feel like they can be lazy and never take the initiative during the relationship.
  • josh333josh333 User Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 119 Junior Member
    I prefer it when someone asks me out.

    That's because, as I believe, it's much less nerve-wracking to be asked. You don't have that moment where you fear rejection after stating your feelings.

    Good luck!
  • dramakitty92428dramakitty92428 Registered User Posts: 676 Member
    I disagree.
    When I get rejected I get over it quickly.
    There's nothing like the "OH NO" feeling of knowing a guy's about to ask me out when I have no interest in him and have to figure out how to kindly say no...that recently happened with a guy who got all depressed and wouldn't get over it...it sucked.
  • TUOwls2011TUOwls2011 - Posts: 728 Member
    It sure as hell would make life a lot easier. Considering the current culture, it makes things very difficult/confusing/scary.
  • catsushicatsushi Registered User Posts: 1,970 Senior Member
    There's nothing like the "OH NO" feeling of knowing a guy's about to ask me out when I have no interest in him and have to figure out how to kindly say no...that recently happened with a guy who got all depressed and wouldn't get over it...it sucked.

    That's exactly my problem right now. But I also tend to go on at least one date with the guy because I'm always unsure. In the past I've found that one or two dates can change my mind about a guy...

    On a more random note, I also think that upperclassmen have this rule of "No freshmen until after November". Ammirite yes/yes? Maybe I should make a separate thread about that, ha.
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