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How to tell if a girl has a boyfriend?

augustuscaesaraugustuscaesar Registered User Posts: 395 Member
edited April 2009 in College Life
1. What are the non-verbal signals other than a FB status?

2. How would a girl respond if you ask her: "Do you have a boyfriend"? Would she assume that you have a crush on her?
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Replies to: How to tell if a girl has a boyfriend?

  • kolomkolom Registered User Posts: 355 Member
    1. The other non-verbal signals is her body language

    2. The girl might just say "yes" or "no," and how you ask the question might come across as you being desperate. However, there is more subtle ways you can find out. Most likely if she has a boyfriend, she will mention him in the conversation. The other way way is to ask/comment her indirectly (e.g., "Are you this pretty for your boyfriend?" or "I bet your boyfriend is really lucky")
  • danw316danw316 Registered User Posts: 81 Junior Member
    Just continue talking/flirting with her as if she doesn't have a boyfriend. If she has a boyfriend and feels uncomfortable, she'll let you know.
  • UpsilambaUpsilamba Registered User Posts: 587 Member
    The other way way is to ask/comment her indirectly (e.g., "Are you this pretty for your boyfriend?" or "I bet your boyfriend is really lucky")

    I personally, as a girl, would find that awkward; and, if I didn't have a boyfriend and was interested in the guy, it would be a mark against him. It's obvious that the real question is whether or not the girl has a boyfriend, and it makes the guy seem insincere, because he's asking in a way that a friend might ask those questions, only it isn't out of friendship, but rather self interest.

    Ask some guy friends if they know if she has a girlfriend.
  • QuasiProfoundQuasiProfound Registered User Posts: 7,623 Senior Member
    Why would you want to know if you weren't interested in her, exactly?
  • augustuscaesaraugustuscaesar Registered User Posts: 395 Member
    ^ I am but I'm afraid if she knows you like her too soon then she might get scared.
  • Kaley89Kaley89 Registered User Posts: 91 Junior Member
    If she doesn't know you like her how will you guys get together (since it seems you do like her)? Why don't you just casually ask her if she wants to hang out sometime? Then if she says she has a boyfriend, pretend you meant hanging out as friends.

    She'll probably be flattered rather than scared.
  • Oz.Oz. Registered User Posts: 73 Junior Member
    You have to let her know your interested in her. If not you can get "friend zoned" fast because she gets the wrong vibe from you and takes the relationship in a different direction.
  • frank01frank01 Registered User Posts: 182 Junior Member
    Ask her to hang out, usually there are clues in the conversation, after talking for a while bring it up, straight up ask her if she has a boyfriend... Or you can find out from a friend of yours/hers?
  • Euler321Euler321 Registered User Posts: 597 Member
    I don't even know why it would matter. Why do you care if she has a boyfriend? Why are you thinking of dating her when you don't know much about her? You should assume she doesn't have one until she tells you, and even then it shouldn't matter. What if she has a boyfriend but is losing interest? What if she is dating a scrub, and you are her soul mate?

    Pursue her, and if she tells you she has a boyfriend then that is great. Be friends with her, and sehow she feels about him. If she tells you how awesome he is all the time then you know she isn't going to leave him so at the very least you have a new friend. If she tells you about how much he sucks then there is potential for you to steal her away (if that is what you want).
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