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College vs. High School Friends

ripemangoripemango Registered User Posts: 957 Member
edited July 2010 in College Life
I notice that a lot of college kids in my town seem to come back home way too often to hang out with their high school friends. It seems like they don't really make too many friends in college. What do you guys think about your friends in college vs. your friends in high school? Who do you hang out with more during your college years?
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  • college316college316 Registered User Posts: 283 Junior Member
    It's entirely dependent on the kind of high school friends you have and the kind of college friends you have. Personally, I was really shy in high school and didn't branch out til college. I love my high school friends but we just don't have that much in common anymore. Since I go to an out-of-state college, I didn't come home at all except for major breaks when everyone else was home.

    A lot of my high school friends went to our huge in-state university and because it was so huge, just ended up hanging out with people from our high school because they couldn't meet anyone else. Also, we're pretty close to the university so people came home a lot and hung out with their high school friends whenever they were home.

    Honestly, I think that going to college and meeting a whole new group of people is the way to go. High school friends will always be there but college is one of the few times when you can really branch out and meet people who may end up being in your wedding. I also think that it's important to accept the fact that high school friendships may wane as your college life gets going. People who sit in their rooms all day talking to their high school friends are missing out on a lot of the spontaneous moments that make college what it is. My high school friends and I definitely kept in touch throughout the semester but we didn't update each other on every little thing...and that was okay. I made some amazing friends at college (who actually visited me here at home over the summer). I felt okay about devoting so much of myself to my college friends because I knew my high school friends were off making their own college friends, and we weren't replacing each other, just branching out.

    That said, I feel much closer to my college friends than I did to my high school friends, just because I'm more mature now and have more in common with my college friends.
  • October47October47 Registered User Posts: 1,021 Senior Member
    As they say: make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, and the other's gold. :)
  • ripemangoripemango Registered User Posts: 957 Member
    Ok thanks college316 great post. I will definteley try to go OOS and meet new people instead of clinging to my high school.
  • SingDanceRunLifeSingDanceRunLife Registered User Posts: 1,787 Senior Member
    My college friends.

    My high school friends were more like acquaintances that I hung out with so I would have people to hang out with. My college friends are like my family.
  • darkdreamdarkdream Registered User Posts: 391 Member
    Highschool friends because my closest knit core group of friends are people I have known since elementary school.
  • fa-la-la-lenafa-la-la-lena Registered User Posts: 2,844 Senior Member
    Like college316 said, it really depends on you and the type of background you have had. I've heard some of my friends (albeit a minority) who say that they are just as close (if not closer) to their high school friends than their college friends. But the large majority of my friends (including me) prefer college infinitely in terms of friends.

    The types of friends I made in high school were more out of necessity than anything else - I needed people to eat lunch with, I wasn't really friends with them because I had a lot in common with them. (I was definitely a lot shyer in high school and didn't make friends easily). Right now, I keep in touch with my best friend from high school (that I have known since 1st grade), and say hello once in a while to 3-4 of my high school friends (and then we hang out when we get back from breaks). But generally I haven't really been dependent on my high school friends, and definitely see myself drifting away from them in the future.

    In comparison, my college friends are more like my family. I miss them probably more than I miss my actual family, to be quite honest (even though I still love my family like crazy). It is hard to describe, but it is odd how quite dependent I am on their support. I feel like I have infinitely more in common with my college friends, and I could see them being there in my life years down the road.

    One significant difference between high school and college friends for me - my friends in high school were not groupy - they were all from different groups, one friend here one friend there. It made it really difficult to plan any sort of group activity because they didn't all get along. Compared to college, most of my friends are friends with each other. And just fyi, I went out-of-state for college so I knew absolutely no one at my school when I first started.
  • coollegecoollege Registered User Posts: 964 Member
    Wow, fa la la, you in High School sounds like me right now in High School lol. I have friends, but not too many of them are close friends. I always have someone to work with on a project or to sit next to at lunch, I get asked to be on a couple intermural teams, etc...
    But honestly, I'm not great friends with most of them. It wouldn't bother me that much if I didn't see half of them after H.S. With Facebook I'll keep in touch, and I'll try to keep in touch with some of my other friends, and I could see some of my H.S. friends at my wedding.

    I can definitely relate with having no "groupy" high school friends, which kind of bugs me. I switched to a private H.S. after being in a public school system so this may be part of it, but some of my friends come from my public school, my high school, and some from sports and other outside activities. There is one group I sort of hang with, it is kind of the somewhat intelligent jock group, but I don't hang with them that much. But a lot of my friends come from different groups so it's hard to do something together.
    Lol it could be worse, in 8th grade, a couple of my good friends absolutely hated each other, like they couldn't stand to be in the same room. I'm glad I'm a guy, if I was a girl, I'm guessing there would have been a little more drama haha.

    Oh well, hoping for closer friends in college, kinda like what you have fa la la.

    Thanks for sharing.
  • DCHurricaneDCHurricane - Posts: 2,976 Senior Member
    I frankly haven't made many friends in college, but I hang out with my high school friends (both those from my grade and those below) quite a lot. They're some great people, I couldn't imagine not hanging out with them just cos some might still be in high school
  • kashc2kashc2 Registered User Posts: 169 Junior Member
    I'm going to be a college freshman next year and it's kinda scary that I may be branching off to a new group of friends in college only because I'm so used to hanging out with my highschool friends. We've been friends since 8th grade and we're all in the same group so hanging out together is no problem at all. And most of those friends are going to the same college as me so idk...i love those guys (no homo) we're a pretty close group.
  • Emaheevul07Emaheevul07 Registered User Posts: 5,966 Senior Member
    I stopped seeing my friends from high school my junior year of college. We had been friends since 6th grade. We all attend universities within driving distance of each other so we'd see each other once or twice a month. I obviously saw college friends more often since I could just bump into them or start something up without it having to be a whole thing planned in advance. We finally started growing apart this past year, though.
  • kashc2kashc2 Registered User Posts: 169 Junior Member
    ^see you're in different universities...mine are going to be in the same college. infact im rooming with a good friend of mine. i feel like there will be too many complications if we start branching out.
  • Emaheevul07Emaheevul07 Registered User Posts: 5,966 Senior Member
    Oh that's nonsense. What complications could there possibly be in making new friends?
  • kashc2kashc2 Registered User Posts: 169 Junior Member
    i dont know i dont want them too feel like im turn my back on them and hanging out with different people instead of them. it could just be me feeling like this but i did that before and haha they got al ittle offended.
  • person1person1 Registered User Posts: 100 Junior Member
    yea im split here hang with my high school friends at school all the time but we all have a bunch of diff friends that we met through college
  • cabhaxcabhax Registered User Posts: 765 Member
    Nobody in my High School goes to my school. I hang around with college friends throughout the semester and then during the summer I'm with my High School friends catching up on old times.
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