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Buyer's Remorse/ Extreme Panic

waywardsonwaywardson Registered User Posts: 18 New Member
Hi everyone,
This fall I will depart for a certain top 15 university on the East Coast. I knew before I even attended the admitted students weekend that the school has a reputation for churning out unhappy students. I've read post after post after post on various internet forums about the "cut-throat environment," poor social life, etc, and had no intention of attending the school.
When I visited, however, I had the best time of my entire life. What I had read online was inconsistent with the charismatic, fun students before my eyes, students who appeared to LOVE their school. I ecstatically and impetuously submitted my deposit the day I returned. Now I'm really regretting it. I can't even search my school on a student-review type sight without seeing an amassment of complaints from unhappy students! I am extremely grateful that I was accepted to the institution and that my family has the means to send me, but was it wrong of me to discount the TONS of negative reviews about the school merely because I happened to have a "fun" weekend?
Was I really stupid to choose a school that is KNOWN for not being fun, or was I right to rely on observations rather than anonymous slander? I feel bad that my family is paying such a huge fee to send me to a school about which I am so ambivalent. Please weigh in because I am really panicking.
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Replies to: Buyer's Remorse/ Extreme Panic

  • waywardsonwaywardson Registered User Posts: 18 New Member
  • AmicaMomAmicaMom Registered User Posts: 179 Junior Member
    I would take at least most of the negative reviews with a grain of salt. And stop reading them. It could be one nutcase on a vendetta or someone who actually goes to a rival school or any number of things.
  • nova2nolanova2nola Registered User Posts: 434 Member
    You have a lot of control over what you make of your college experience. Take ownership, go in with a positive attitude, and make it great.
  • undecided2014undecided2014 Registered User Posts: 399 Member
    To be honest, every single school has tons of bad stuff in the reviews. You cannot find a school without a bunch of bad stuff. If there are specifics that bother you, like the dorms are really run down, and that is repeated by most people, then, yeah, I would consider that. But just plain opinion complaints, I would not worry about. I do not think there is anything in the top 15 that does not have a portion of bad reviews. You will likely be fine!
  • SnowdogSnowdog Registered User Posts: 2,243 Senior Member
    You're asking if you should believe some anonymous screeds on the Internet or your own eyes?
  • tk21769tk21769 Registered User Posts: 10,605 Senior Member
    Unless you believe they bus in happy students from other schools to fool the visiting admitted students, I suggest you trust your own first-hand observations.
  • boysx3boysx3 Registered User Posts: 5,164 Senior Member
    Just something to think about....generally, only unhappy students post on those sites. All of the other students are too busy/happy to give a second thought to visiting those sites, much less posting on them. So consider the source of the gripes.

    Trust your gut. You liked what you experienced...for a reason.
  • waywardsonwaywardson Registered User Posts: 18 New Member
    Thank you all for your replies!
  • waywardsonwaywardson Registered User Posts: 18 New Member
  • sally305sally305 Registered User Posts: 7,604 Senior Member
    I'd say keep your mind open until proven otherwise. You may get there and say--"oh, so this is what all those reviews were about"--or you may find that your experience is vastly different. Just give it a little time and throw yourself into your schoolwork and activities and see how it goes.
  • whenhenwhenhen Registered User Posts: 5,641 Senior Member
    I've read reviews about my college that line up 100% with my experiences. Then I've read other things that made me wonder if we went to the same school. As others have said, the people who write reviews are usually not typical college students. Even if they are, at a big school, there are a ton of different communities so one person's experience may not necessarily translate to another person's.

    According to the reviews, my new school is supposed to be incredibly Greek dominated, and you can't have fun without joining a fraternity or sorority. Yet most undergrads in my department would be surprised to find this out, as would the roughly 75% of students who don't don greek letters.
  • BrownParentBrownParent Registered User Posts: 12,776 Senior Member
    quit bumping your thread within minutes of posting.

    Did you pick UChi? Great school.

    I agree with Nova2nola. And choose your classes wisely.
  • BenFranklin0BenFranklin0 - Posts: 45 Junior Member
    it appears to be Johns Hopkins
  • tk21769tk21769 Registered User Posts: 10,605 Senior Member
    ^ The OP said it was on the East Coast. My guess is Johns Hopkins.

    If so, read this:

    Hopkins has been typecast for years as a school for "cut-throat" pre-meds, just as Chicago has been typecast as the place "where fun goes to die". In fact, both schools have very high freshmen retention and 4-year graduation rates. If students really are so unhappy, why don't they leave?

    Hopkins has many strong humanities and social science departments. If there is any element of truth to its pre-med and STEM reputation, I doubt the music, art history, and English departments all have the same vibe, year after year.
  • AlexandreAlexandre Registered User Posts: 24,693 Senior Member
    "When I visited, however, I had the best time of my entire life. What I had read online was inconsistent with the charismatic, fun students before my eyes, students who appeared to LOVE their school."

    Are you going to trust what you read online over what you have seen with your own eyes? Regardless of which school you are referring to, you are certain to find your niche and thrive. Give the school a fair chance and approach college with the right spirit. Forget the negativity.
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