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Should I sabotage my writing supplements for Ivy+S? Please advise.

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  • IsaacTheFutureIsaacTheFuture 169 replies39 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    edited March 2017
    I was in a similar situation. My parents are immigrants, and really wanted me to go to Harvard, MIT, Stanford, Yale, or Princeton. They didn't care what other schools I applied to except for these 5. The thing is, outside of Stanford, and maybe a little of Princeton, I had little to no desire to apply to any of these schools, let alone attend. They aren't completely ignorant on the college search, but what they don't realize is that there are great schools in this country that they had never heard of, and that are better than these schools for what I want to major in; Duke, NU, Vanderbilt, UPenn, Rice, Columbia, GaTech (along with Stanford) were schools that I were truly interested in, and all had just as good or better Biomed Eng. programs than HYPM. They were also highly prestigious Universities that are world renowned. However, being foreigners, they were a little ignorant when it came to college quality(shoot, their are PEOPLE IN THIS COUNTRY that have never heard of CMU, Washington U., CalTech, or UChicago), all they ever heard about were HYPSM, and they thought every other school was a step below (even though they were just as good or better, and most of all, would have been drastically better fits for me). Shoot, they had never even heard of NU, UPenn, or Columbia until I introduced it to them, and had only heard of Duke because of basketball.

    At the end of the day, I applied to the schools that I wanted to apply to. Yes, my parents were a little hurt that I didn't really consider their opinion in the app process, but at the end of the day, I will be attending the schools, NOT THEM, and I'd hate to be stuck at a school that I didn't want to be at.
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  • ANormalSeniorGuyANormalSeniorGuy 307 replies28 threadsRegistered User Member
    What is an LAC?
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  • yikesyikesyikesyikesyikesyikes 1840 replies129 threadsForum Champion U. Michigan Forum Champion
    Dartmouth and Princeton can be LAC-like, with some significant caveats I must say.
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  • merc81merc81 10346 replies157 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    edited March 2017
    @ANormalSeniorGuy : Liberal Arts College, such as Hamilton, Bowdoin, Bates and Colby that the OP has been considering -- can be used to describe colleges that offer comparable curricula to that available at universities but which offer a stronger undergraduate focus, or can simply refer to the USNWR category.
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  • ANormalSeniorGuyANormalSeniorGuy 307 replies28 threadsRegistered User Member
  • greenteen17greenteen17 510 replies90 threadsRegistered User Member
    If your parents are into prestige and USNWR rankings, why don't you show them the UNSWR top LAC list. Maybe they'll go for a few elite LAC's like Williams.
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  • lensonodalensonoda 108 replies10 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    @IsaacTheFuture I can relate to that so, so much. I tell them that there are many schools they haven't heard of and just because a school isn't known by the people in our (low-income) community (who are just as, if not more, ignorant), does not mean that it is of lower level. When I tell them that employers in that area / other people of academia will definitely know those schools, they just shake their heads and say I'm disrespecting them.

    Sometimes I think they want me to apply just so they can brag to their friends, because I can't logically decipher why else they wouldn't want me to go to a prestigious school that offers similar opportunities in addition to a much better fit.

    I browsed through your threads and am pretty sure you got into Northwestern through Questbridge. Did that end up working out for you? How is your relationship with your parents now?
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  • lensonodalensonoda 108 replies10 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    @greenteen17 That's a good idea. I did show them, and they are now a bit happier with Bowdoin and Hamilton, but also concerned with the fact that I'm applying to Colby and Bates (apparently I'm way too good for them???...)
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  • merc81merc81 10346 replies157 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    At least your parents appear to be becoming more receptive to a wider array of sources @lensonoda.
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  • IsaacTheFutureIsaacTheFuture 169 replies39 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    @lensonoda They've gotten over it. It took them nearly a week, but sooner or later they had to come to realize that it is my education, not there's.

    Also, I feel the same way when it comes to why my parents wanted me to go to HYPSM; it was definitely a touch of ignorance in regard to other schools, but also that they simply wanted to brag to others to say that "My son is going to Yale" or whatever. Show your parents how prestigious and top level the schools that you want to apply to are, and simply explain to them why you want to go there. I'm sure that eventually they'll come to understand.
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  • lensonodalensonoda 108 replies10 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    @IsaacTheFuture I'm really happy for you.

    Alright! I've kept pushing the idea that students with better stats than me have gotten rejected and they seem to be much more okay with the LACs. Still trying to keep me in California though.. not sure what I'll do about that but we'll see :)
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