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How does one handle a nonsupportive spouse/partner?
My wife and I have 3 kids - 2021, 23 and 25. Me: full-time employed professional. Her: a medical professional with her own practice. For the last several years she has been pretty much hands off the academics - she works on her practice and I am handling everything for them academically, athletically and socially while working as well. Now as things get serious (S21 taking the SAT entering junior year, S23 son entering a second, different high school, D25 in a magnet school) I find this to be really frustrating as she will get home from work and sit in bed and watch Law and Order while I work through homework, clubs scheduling etc with the kids. As an example, last May when my youngest was working through exponents and I was busy with Trig with the oldest she said she couldn't help the youngest because she "doesn't remember it" and closing the door. Further, she will undermine the process intentionally or unintentionally by scheduling days off school and family functions at the worst times. When I explain to her that they need to to study, attend class she looks at me like I am crazy. Tonight I wanted to help my son review a SAT practice test but then she invites over the cousins for a night of video games and chatting on the phone and gets angry at me when ask when they are going home so S21 can study for his August test date. This only adds to the stress of the education process for me. I am seriously about to blow. Any input?54 replies