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Hi everyone! I will be attending college in a month and one of the things I am interested in doing is possibly joining a sorority. I've talked to my mom about this before and she doesn't want me to join one ATALL. Me personally, I’ve gone through a lot of personal things my senior year of high school mentally, such as seeing the school psychologist every week, going to group therapy, struggling with school, and losing a lot of close friends who arent there for me when i needed someone, or them the most. I honestly am interested in a sorority not just for the parties, but to make friends. I've never truly have had friends that I have felt like I belong. I feel as if I join a sorority I could have a chance at making these friends. And not just only friends,I love being involved within my community outside of school, volunteering and doing community service events. I have talked to my mom about this multiple times and she doesn't understand my side of the story, to the point where she just yells and just tells me to stop asking about it because it's not going to happen. My brother was in a fraternity and she still let him join. She thinks I’m too young, naive. Not responsible enough and she’s seen how I’ve been that one friend who isn’t included in everything or is left out. Another big reason is that she doesn't want me to work at all my freshman year because she wants me to get used to college, rather than focus on making money. She essentially is helping me with my rent, food, and books, which I am very thankful for but I feel like she just wants me to eat, go to school, study and repeat. I feel like whenever I talk about wanting to do something or be involved outside of school it is ignored by her. I really want to join a sorority but the financial aspect is weighing heavily on me because my mom doesn’t want me to work and if I do, she won’t help me at all ( that’s what it was like with my brothers ). It saddens me because I want to do something that I can enjoy, and I just want to make friends and find a group where I can truly fit into. What should I do? ( Thank you to everyone who has listened! )14 replies