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Suicide by rejectees?

ShneadShnead Registered User Posts: 85 Junior Member
edited March 2010 in College Admissions
Has anyone ever heard of someone killing themselves after being rejected from their top choice schools?

Just asking to know what kind of press this would give to a college, let alone the cut-throat business of college admissions.
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Replies to: Suicide by rejectees?

  • Youdon'tsayYoudon'tsay Registered User Posts: 19,490 Senior Member
    Well, that's a horrible thought.

    Back in the day, I did know a girl who quit her college first semester because she didn't get into the "right" sorority.
  • glam407glam407 Registered User Posts: 175 Junior Member
    Not yet.
    But I feel like as the admission process gets more and more competitive with the coming years it's likely to happen
  • Collegestress16Collegestress16 Registered User Posts: 1,162 Senior Member
    I used to think that if I didn't get in to the schools I wanted, then I would die and just completely give up. I'm sure it has happened before. It sure has happened in asian countries such as japan and china, where students are given a major test that can determine what college they go to and their life. One japanese boy placed two upright pencils on his desk and slammed his eyes into the pencils.
  • jellypigjellypig Registered User Posts: 11 New Member
    was there really such an incident? any links? =O
  • sunday1xsunday1x Registered User Posts: 156 Junior Member
    Unfortunately it does happen. The reason being that so many leaders in these kids' lives tell them that unless they get into their dream school, they will amount to nothing. This kind of pressure is terrible and can lead to cutting and even suicide.
  • Collegestress16Collegestress16 Registered User Posts: 1,162 Senior Member
    sorry, you might be able to google it but its a story my Japanese teacher told me.
  • PeaPea Registered User Posts: 2,387 Senior Member
    Everyone needs to learn how to be disappointed. Whether that means not getting your dream job or accepted into your dream school or being rejected by someone you have a crush on. There is always another job, another school and other fish in the sea. There is always another way to live the life you want.
  • sunday1xsunday1x Registered User Posts: 156 Junior Member
    Exactly. I just feel bad for the kids whose parents put so much pressure on them that they are afraid to face their parents....Ahhh it's just sad...
  • KeilingerKeilinger Registered User Posts: 600 Member
    Thanks, Pea. I think I always felt that I'd never get over it if I were rejected from my top choices, but that's changed now. And hopefully, even if someone gets in, that acceptance won't be the high point of their college career. There's so much to be done that college decisions should seem like a speck in the grand scheme of things.
  • FLVADADFLVADAD Registered User Posts: 1,602 Senior Member
    Lol, more interesting would be to know if any parents killed themselves over it.
  • mom2collegekidsmom2collegekids Forum Champion Financial Aid, Forum Champion Alabama Posts: 84,880 Forum Champion
    I've heard of schools having "suicide watches" after rush week. I don't know of any particular instances of girls committing suicide over not getting into the right sorority....

    That said, there was a boy who committed suicide right after winter final exams. It is believed that he knew he didn't do well and didn't want to face his parents.
  • KeilingerKeilinger Registered User Posts: 600 Member
    What's the big deal about not getting into a sorority? I've seen the term "rushing" used a lot, but never really wondered what it entailed. I guess if rushing were humiliating in itself, it could double the hurt caused by a rejection.
  • NorthstarmomNorthstarmom Registered User Posts: 24,853 Senior Member
    I'm sure that there have been students who committed suicide after being rejected by a college just like there are people who commit suicide after being rejected by a potential romantic partner.

    Unfortunately, many people don't have the good judgement to realize that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

    If a student did this, it wouldn't reflect badly on the college that rejected them, but would reflect the student's impaired mental health and judgment.

    I hope that anyone here considering such an action will talk to a trusted adult or a professional in the mental health field because something is wrong if a person is considering taking their life over a college rejection. Getting rejected by your dream school doesn't mean one is a horrendous failure or one will have a miserable, unsuccessful life.

    Getting accepted by your dream school won't mean that you'll have a life 100% full of joy and success. Everyone has their own share of struggles, joys, and achievements no matter where they go to college. However you define success, some of the most successful people didn't get into their first choice college or even colleges that were highly regarded. Some people who are living ordinary lives or even are living lives that are unsuccessful --how ever you define success-- went to top colleges and their dream schools.

    What you do in college and afterward is more important than where you go to school.
  • paint_me_purplepaint_me_purple Registered User Posts: 86 Junior Member
    I'm a senior now, but earlier in high school I dealt with depression and suicide thoughts/attempts. I luckily had supportive people around me and I got through everything.
    In the past few months I was deferred from ED 1 to ED 2 and eventually rejected from Wesleyan, my top choice; I was completely crushed. I had terrible thoughts racing through my mind again, and while it's easy to think it's the end of the world, it's important to understand that this process can't define an applicant. As someone who has been through emotional low points and rejections, I can honestly say it's not worth the thought.
    I'm still upset about it, but hey, I got into NYU, McGill, Bard, Geneseo, and I'm waiting on a bunch; there are a ton of other options for everyone. Even if I had nowhere to go, the whole process is so unpredictable that it doesn't warrant a lot of emotional investment.
  • meghnasridharmeghnasridhar Registered User Posts: 787 Member
    I think suicides for the board examinations in India (one set of 5 exams and NOTHING else determines which college you get into) are definitely prevelant, and show the UGLY side of our education system. Our top college (for the commerce/arts students) has a cutoff of 97.5%. In India, that's ridiculously difficult to get and it leaves absolutely no room for errors. You can be a top maths student for 12 years, and get tripped up in ONE question because it's faultily worded, and that's it. That's what you have to show for 12 years of straight hundreds, or whatever.

    I'm not saying suicide is the right solution at ALL. But I wish people working in education would realise the flaws in the system and try and reduce this awful stressload a little.
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