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Disciplinary action?

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Replies to: Disciplinary action?

  • carolinamom2boyscarolinamom2boys Registered User Posts: 6,897 Senior Member
    Because you are a new poster, I'd like to help you understand how this site works. First, it's important that you go back and read the terms of service so that you understand how this forum works for future posts. The understanding is that posters are respectful of each other's different opinions. Once a thread is started it cannot be deleted , so it's important to think about what is posted here. You will get some responses that you find helpful and others that you don't. Use the info that you find helpful and disregard the info that you don't . If you feel that someone is not following the terms of service ,flag that post and a moderator will evaluate the post and decide whether to leave it or modify it. The moderator has the final say over what is removed or edited from the thread. No disrespect intended, but it seems that you get angry quickly. You may want to work on that prior to any disciplinary hearings so that you have a positive outcome. Good luck.
  • thecoolboy1234thecoolboy1234 Registered User Posts: 364 Member
    @fallenchemist Actually, I was the one that said it was a "silly rule". I'm part of the University hearings here and quite honestly it does seem like one of the more minuscule violations.

    But on the other hand, perhaps @TomSrOfBoston comment on "Why don't you just obey the rules? That would make sense." came off more snark than it had to be. I am currently a freshman also and while his comment is justifiable as a fellow 18 year old I feel that I could relate to why @will97 would be upset by that remark.
  • fallenchemistfallenchemist Honorary Super Mod Posts: 25,129 Inactive
    edited January 2016
    I apologize for the misattribution.

    I will disagree to some extent about the severity of the violation. Of course it isn't on the order of many other offenses, but it is the type of thing that changes a campus (or a company or a town) if left unchecked. Because clearly if students keep taking these things, and there is no reason to think that kind of behavior stops with lawn chairs, then of course the university will stop providing them. And that is the difference between "It seemed like a really nice campus that was a welcoming place to be" and "Oh I don't know. It seemed kind of plain and sterile to me, certainly not too different from some other campuses we saw. And definitely not as nice as some where they did some cool stuff for the students." It is subtle perhaps, but things like that help set the atmosphere for the school.
  • thecoolboy1234thecoolboy1234 Registered User Posts: 364 Member
    @fallenchemist I whole heartedly agree with what you stated. And although I believe it to be "silly" it is a necessary rule/policy to have. But I think that digresses from the current subject matter of what the post and the other comments were stating.
  • fallenchemistfallenchemist Honorary Super Mod Posts: 25,129 Inactive
    I am not sure how something can be silly and necessary in this kind of situation, but yes, the focus is on helping the OP. And to that extent I think it is all relevant because how he behaves, what kind of responsibility he takes for all the citations, is no doubt a key factor in the outcome. Hopefully he is truly convinced of the correctness of what has been said and therefore can be convincing in his apology without having to act. Unless he is so convinced he has done nothing wrong that he will just take that tack. I hope that isn't the case.
  • aluminum_boataluminum_boat Registered User Posts: 1,539 Senior Member
    edited January 2016
    Lol a classic case of: "Thanks to the people who are making me feel better. Everyone else can go away."
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  • aluminum_boataluminum_boat Registered User Posts: 1,539 Senior Member
    Why don't you just obey the rules? That would make sense.

    Agreed. Avoiding getting written up is not hard.


    I am currently a freshman also and while his comment is justifiable as a fellow 18 year old I feel that I could relate to why @will97 would be upset by that remark.

    Why? He got written up six times. Somewhere between 1 and 3, he should have realized he needed to stop doing whatever he was doing.
  • bjkmombjkmom Registered User Posts: 7,525 Senior Member
    edited January 2016
    I think the point that a number of adults on this thread have is this:

    At some point at a disciplinary hearing, you'll be asked how you managed to get written up six times.

    If your response is along the lines of your first post, it's not going to be pretty. That first post implies a real disreguard for the policies of the school, and for the rights of others... and in the case of booze and pot, for the law. If the write ups were all that minor, you wouldn't have been written up. Each one represents a choice you made to ignore the rules that have been set up for everyone to follow-- even you.

    So you'll want to put some real thought into how you present yourself at that hearing.

    And, probably more important, you'll want to put some real thought into how you respond to the rules and your respect for those rules. Without that thought process, it will only be a matter of time before another "minor" write up comes up. At some point, the school is going to decide that you're too much of a liability.

    Six write-ups in a college career is a lot. Six in ONE SEMESTER is a real problem.
  • twogirlstwogirls Registered User Posts: 6,718 Senior Member
    edited January 2016
    Taking a lounge chair that is meant for everybody and keeping it in your room is called stealing. This behavior is very entitled and shows a total disregard towards everybody else living in the dorm. Then on top of this there are multiple violations of substance abuse? One violation is bad enough; multiple violations show even more disregard for the rules and the law, and displays entitlement and the sense that rules do not apply to you.

    You need to think very carefully about your behavior moving forward, and you need to think about how you will present yourself at the meeting. Many schools send you home for one semester after being written up 3 times, and then you attend a hearing before being permitted back in. I am shocked that after 6 write ups, several of which were for alcohol and marijuana, you are still there. You have an opportunity to attend a great school that many can't afford- do not blow it.
  • fallenchemistfallenchemist Honorary Super Mod Posts: 25,129 Inactive
    After the movie "The Big Short", how tempting is it to say the OP has Wall Street written all over him?
  • bud123bud123 Registered User Posts: 692 Member
    Look, it's not difficult to see what is going on. These are all classic signs of an addiction problem. Take a semester off, go to rehab, get healthy, then come back and kick butt in college and in life. No one likes the behavior of those with an addiction problem. People respect those who get help and everyone loves a redemption story. Make some good choices and good luck.
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