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Introverted Engineering Students

lanckim5lanckim5 1 replies3 threads New Member
So I'm planning on majoring in Aerospace Engineering in college but I'm sure the college lifestyle is pretty similar amongst all engineering disciplines. I've heard many stories of Engineering students being more isolated and tend to stick more to themselves throughout their college years just due to the nature and workload of the major. As an introvert, I've never really been big on the whole idea of partying and going out too much so the lifestyle actually sounds somewhat okay to me. Are there any other introverted engineering students and how did you feel your college experience was because of it?
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  • MaineLonghornMaineLonghorn 42328 replies2285 threads Super Moderator
    I was definitely an introverted engineering student but I made a lot of good friends in college and ended up having a great time. We studied hard and played hard. :) I typically hung out with groups of people and didn't date much, but I met my future husband in grad school.
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  • momocarlymomocarly 1033 replies12 threads Senior Member
    My coworkers son is a very introverted engineering student st UT. He spent his first semester happily studying and going to classes. Second semester he started participating in some engineering competitions. Third semester even more of that and happy with not many close friends and never really going out. Third semester did study abroad and learned going out with people from your competition teams was fun. He travelled a lot and came out of his shell. He is still an introvert but is now going to be an RA next semester and go eat out and play board games more!
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  • boneh3adboneh3ad Forum Champion Engineering 7520 replies134 threads Forum Champion
    Introvert, extrovert... It doesn't matter, really. You'll find people you can befriend. Engineers fall on a normal distribution of personality traits just like anyone else.
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  • HPuck35HPuck35 2148 replies17 threads Senior Member
    As above, some engineers are introverts, some extroverts. People will exhibit different traits depending on their mood, the circumstances, the need, etc.

    Your personality can change over time also. Mine did. My daughter's did. Both of us were more on the introvert side when starting college and were more on the extrovert side when we graduated. Sometimes it is just a matter of maturity and confidence. Engineering is a group activity and you deal with many more people and circumstances in college than in high school. You are also amongst people with similar interests and abilities, so conversation is much more easy-going.

    Your college activities don't have center around partying and drinking, they can be sports, gaming, outing club, or just about anything that interests you. You'll find it easier to be part of the group and your personality can change or at least be more comfortable in all situations.
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  • KnowsstuffKnowsstuff 7620 replies36 threads Senior Member
    My some what introverted engineering college son is not anymore. It's amazing what 2 years of college away from parents can do. He is studying abroad now and with 30 others students all engineering and having a blast in France, went to Amsterdam and Brussels.

    You will grow in college. He also made friends with some Ross business students and others. You don't have to just hang with engineering students. But that's your choice.
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  • MaineLonghornMaineLonghorn 42328 replies2285 threads Super Moderator
    Yes, college is a life-changer! My high school acquaintances would not have recognized me as a college junior. :)
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  • collegemom3717collegemom3717 8040 replies85 threads Senior Member
    LOL plenty of introverted engineers- it is a stereotype....

    A lot of characteristics that are associated with being more 'introverted' are ones that align with temperament characteristics that suit engineering as a discipline. The key thing is that college is not HS, there are plenty of people across the extra-/intro- spectrum, and as the poster above noted, humans are not immutable. You will grow and change a *lot* over the next decade, and more than you expect in the decades after that.

    IMO, starting college with the expectation that you will be 'sticking to yourself', whether b/c of your temperament or your subject is not a good plan. Humans are social animals, and at every college there are many ways of being social. You may not be leading the frat house drinking games or organizing the post-game party, but the engineering students that I know enjoy lots of forms of socializing- from building stuff to theatre tech to being foodies to board games to music (making or listening), to exploring the town and country around their university, etc, etc., etc. One lot- none of them remotely athletic- took a weekend ski class offered through the university, and now (5 years post-grad, off in different parts of the country doing various things) still meet up for a weekend of skiing together at least once a winter.
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  • momofsenior1momofsenior1 10440 replies124 threads Senior Member
    Engineering has become very collaborative. You'll be hard pressed to avoid project teams and work groups. My D's school has social outings for the engineers, field trips to companies, engineering clubs, etc.... You will meet new people and make friends.

    As noted multiple times up thread, there is no one size fits all to engineering personalities. My D does theater. Other engineering friends are in band, others play sports, others participate in Greek Life.

    The important thing is that most students find their tribe in college. Be open to the new experiences you'll encounter!
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  • KnowsstuffKnowsstuff 7620 replies36 threads Senior Member
    Watching the College baseball world series, Michigan (won 2 games so far) were announcing their players
    So many are engineering students. Their marching band is like 1/3 engineering students. I think you will find engineering students in just about all sectors in college life but no question there are stereotypes. But just remember... Engineering students Rock!
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  • colorado_momcolorado_mom 9497 replies83 threads Senior Member
    edited June 2019
    LOL- Some athletes and some (and some of any category) are introverts.
    Per engiineering students... I feel like it probably tilts more toward introvert at smallish Engineering-only schools, but it is pure speculation since I never attended a large university.
    edited June 2019
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  • 10s4life10s4life Forum Champion UCLA 2509 replies53 threads Forum Champion
    I wouldn’t worry about it. Yes many engineering students are introverts. And many are not, it’s just like any other major you’ll get a whole spectrum of personalities. I Def fall on the more extrovert side.
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  • Rivet2000Rivet2000 1632 replies3 threads Senior Member
    And then there are the introverted engineering students that, when surrounded by their peers in an environment they love, come out of their shell a little and become more outgoing... 🙂
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  • lookingforwardlookingforward 35421 replies399 threads Senior Member
    Yes, lots of types. But plenty of introverted engineers can pull out the collaborative skills when needed. It's an inherently collaborative field. It's more than doing your own work and getting your grades.
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  • KnowsstuffKnowsstuff 7620 replies36 threads Senior Member
    @Rivet2000. Yes. Yes and Yes. I have seen this first hand. I think once their comfortable they might even compensate a bit.
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