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Financial Aid and Morals?

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Replies to: Financial Aid and Morals?

  • austinmshauriaustinmshauri Registered User Posts: 7,534 Senior Member
    edited March 12
    I think there have been some pretty harsh posts about the mom without knowing much about her situation other than she lives with her boyfriend and his kids and doesn't work. Maybe all the kids are little and they've agreed she'll stay home until they're older. I don't really know, but we don't know that she's freeloading.

    I think OP needs to create a budget. Once he does, I think he'll realize he won't have much left to give to the girlfriend once all his school expenses are covered unless he gets a job. When he does work he should save as much as he can in case he needs to get a shared apartment. He's definitely going to need it for his last 2 years of school. Has he said what state he's in?

    It might be to his advantage to open an account and have all his pay and any refunds direct deposited. He may also want to choose electronic statements instead of paper ones. But I think if he wants to stay there any length of time he's going to have to contribute something to the household.
  • mom2collegekidsmom2collegekids Forum Champion Financial Aid, Forum Champion Alabama Posts: 84,191 Forum Champion
    Lets say the situation was reversed. If a mom was cooking, cleaning and taking the kids to school, nobody would be so vehemently telling her to get a job.

    Yes we would if the woman had her adult child living there while going to school. It would be very nervy for a woman (or man) to expect a SO to provide for their child, particularly an adult child.

  • dkinseydkinsey Registered User Posts: 12 New Member
    I suspect your stepdad would be equally happy to see your mom get a job and help support herself.

    Actually he’s very much against my mom working.
    [...]she lives with her boyfriend and his kids and doesn't work.

    Oh, to clarify his kids don’t live with him and my mom. His situation with his kids is rather complicated (Doesn’t pay child support).
  • lookingforwardlookingforward Registered User Posts: 29,940 Senior Member
    OP, what's up? We keep saying to get a job, do the right thing, and you respond in drive and drabs about the others. What will *you* do?
  • austinmshauriaustinmshauri Registered User Posts: 7,534 Senior Member
    If your mom's boyfriend won't pay for his own kids, I wouldn't count on that as a backup if things go wrong at your dad's girlfriend's apartment. Your dad doesn't have a job and it doesn't appear that he's a financial backup either. If your dad's girlfriend kicked you out tomorrow, what would you do? For your own financial security, go get a job if you don't already have one. Start contributing something to the household and start planning how you're going to pay for 4 years of college.

    What state do you live in? Are there 4 year schools within commuting distance? What are you planning to study?
  • dkinseydkinsey Registered User Posts: 12 New Member
    OP, what's up? We keep saying to get a job, do the right thing, and you respond in drive and drabs about the others. What will *you* do?

    Welp as someone that’s been looking for a job for the past 2 years to no avail, I’m pretty sure in the end I’ll just end up giving her $1000 for the school year split up into 6 payments (disbursement schedule).
  • lookingforwardlookingforward Registered User Posts: 29,940 Senior Member
    Even if she doesn't kick you out, if she's stuck on being the sole support for her own psychological reasons, you still should do the right thing. You. After all, you did ask about what's moral (ethical.) So what sort of young adult will you be?
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 38,828 Senior Member
    edited March 12
    Have you shown your resume to someone? Received help on your application?
    There has to be a part time job with a few hours a week for HS students, somewhere within driving distance. This way you could keep your Pell money for educational expenses yet contribute to your household.
  • mom2collegekidsmom2collegekids Forum Champion Financial Aid, Forum Champion Alabama Posts: 84,191 Forum Champion
    Welp as someone that’s been looking for a job for the past 2 years to no avail,

    Oh come on. There are places that hire for Christmas, there are places that hire for summer, heck, even mcdonalds pretty much hires any decent applicant.
  • SybyllaSybylla Registered User Posts: 2,616 Senior Member
    Around here everyone is hiring. What is your home area?
  • bjkmombjkmom Registered User Posts: 7,330 Senior Member
    You must buy groceries somewhere. Apply at the local supermarket. Clothing?? Apply there. Pet supplies? Apply there. Fast food? Apply there. Ice cream? Apply there. Pizza? Apply there. Is there a local,pool? I bet they’re hiring now for the food concession.

    I’ve heard kids around here say that no one is hiring.... yet all 3 of my kids have jobs.mso do most of their friends. People are hiring all right...but not for the corner office jobs. Are you sure you’re not being too Picky?

    Take a look at snagajob
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 72,233 Senior Member
    Dishwasher at a restaurant? Bus person?

    Don’t be picky.
  • KRBTLKRBTL Registered User Posts: 5 New Member
    There must be plenty of jobs around your school for you. Try finding some on Snagajob or Indeed, there are plenty of part time jobs fit for students.
  • mom2collegekidsmom2collegekids Forum Champion Financial Aid, Forum Champion Alabama Posts: 84,191 Forum Champion
    Sometimes when kids come from parents who don’t have a strong work ethic, the kids have all sorts of reasons/excused that they can’t find a job.....
  • rgosulargosula Registered User Posts: 633 Member
    Ouch!
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