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Getting in is starting to go to my head!

Regurge01Regurge01 Registered User Posts: 94 Junior Member
I'm already seeing a difference in the way some (many) people are treating me. It seems like they're actually listening to me more than they did before I got in (it makes me feel slightly awkward, like I have to say something intelligent). Every time I do something stupid (which is quite often) someone invariably comments, "I can't believe Harvard accepted you." When I congratulate my peers on getting into a school, many of them say, "well, it's no Harvard, but I'm still psyched." I don't even know how to respond (I mutter something about Harvard having taken pity on me). Don't get me wrong, I am so blessed and surprised to have gotten in, but I don't want to seem like I'm humble bragging. It's bizarre that some people are treating me like some sort of celebrity. What if I start believing them?

Replies to: Getting in is starting to go to my head!

  • Tperry1982Tperry1982 Forum Champion Yale Posts: 1,574 Forum Champion
    Trust me, the big head you are getting will be popped when you actually get there. There will be many big fish around and you will no longer be special. Not meaning to sound harsh. As a graduate of Yale and a mom of a freshman, I personally know the reaction you get when you tell people that you go to Harvard (or in your case got accepted). Just go with the flow and go onto the Facebook page and talk to the other admits in your same situation. Just my .02 cents.

    Don't know whether your post was tongue in cheek. I surely hope so.
  • IxnayBobIxnayBob Registered User Posts: 4,353 Senior Member
    For a while, when people asked me where my son was going to go to college, I would say Yale, followed quickly by something along the lines of: "he won the lottery." After a while, I quit making excuses for his good fortune, which he entirely deserved. People react to hearing HYPMS et al, but ultimately it's their issue, not yours.

    DS jokes that elsewhere, going to Yale makes him interesting to girls, but that at Yale, he's just another guy :)
  • snarlatronsnarlatron Registered User Posts: 1,634 Senior Member
    A friend at H was rejected from every grad school he applied to. That brought him down to earth.
  • JustOneDadJustOneDad Registered User Posts: 5,845 Senior Member
    Regurge01 wrote:
    It's bizarre that some people are treating me like some sort of celebrity.
    For whatever reason, people like to convince themselves that Harvard is unattainable. When someone they know does get admitted, it becomes bigger than life.
  • ZBlue17ZBlue17 Registered User Posts: 767 Member
    Haha this is an interesting post. I wonder how others accepted into HYPSM were treated by their peers. I can imagine it's quite awkward, especially if your the type of student who isn't "openly competive" (it's like people don't know your "smart" and you've snuck up on them). Lol, not speaking from experience, as I'm not a senior yet.
  • SouthernHopeSouthernHope Registered User Posts: 2,063 Senior Member
    To me, you sound great! Congratulations to you...your hard work and smarts make this well-deserved...and your modesty is nice. :)
  • goldenfygggoldenfygg Registered User Posts: 662 Member
    I'm not applying to colleges yet but I am applying to a few prestigious New England prep schools. People have started to see me a little differently just because I'm applying. But anyway, many people would kill to be in your shoes. Congrats on your acceptance!
  • laticheverlatichever Registered User Posts: 1,520 Senior Member
    ^^I could see a different response to each of Conan's situations: "What do you expect? You went to Harvard."

    (An egghead in the real world.)
  • GreatKidGreatKid Registered User Posts: 640 Member
    Humility is where it is at!
    A friend whose son went to Harvard calls it dropping the H bomb when telling someone where their child goes to school.
    There is a young woman who is a student at Harvard that has done a number of YouTube videos about her Harvard experience. One of her videos is about how she strings people along when they ask her where she goes to school. Something like this......
    I go to school on the east coast.
    Well, actually in the Northeast.
    Well, specifically in Massachusetts.
    In Boston.
    Not really Boston, actually in Cambridge.
    I go to Harvard, have you heard of it?
    Congratulations on your acceptance! It's a wonderful place where you will have remarkable opportunities.
    Best Wishes!
  • Regurge01Regurge01 Registered User Posts: 94 Junior Member
    @Tperry1982‌ it's easier to admit these things anonymously on CC than on the admitted students' FB page. In all honesty it's not going to my head at all. In fact I feel more like a fraud, really. I think I got in because I really knew how to play the game. Also, I'm convinced I took a spot from someone else who I'm sure would do much more (for the world) with this opportunity than I think I ever will. I'm worried I'm going to be this huge disappointment to everyone who will now expect so much more from me. I wish I could feel wonderful about this "achievement," and I know so many would take my place in a heartbeat, but I'm feeling stressed and anxious. Sorry to sound ungrateful and whiny!
  • WasatchWriterWasatchWriter Registered User Posts: 2,528 Senior Member
    Everything you wrote in Post #11 sounds like the kind of stuff my daughter felt for months. She just finished her first semester and did very well. She belongs at Harvard, and so do you.
  • NinetyNeinProbsNinetyNeinProbs Registered User Posts: 21 New Member
    @arwarw‌ That's an awesome excerpt haha. I'm gonna try to find and watch that speech on Youtube. I don't think I'll ever see the end of those "You got into Harvard?" jokes hahaha. I love a good teasing, though. Those jokes usually aren't intended to be too harsh.
  • oxoxhawja3xoxooxoxhawja3xoxo Registered User Posts: 309 Member
    Idk. I got accepted and don't feel like my head has grown... I know I still have to work hard, the same way that I did to get in.
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