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How involved are your parents...

ecouter11ecouter11 Registered User Posts: 1,501 Senior Member
edited November 2012 in High School Life
with the college search or even in daily life?

CC seems to be filled with very, very involved parents. I'm reliant on mine for transportation and stuff due to where I live but I'm on my own for apps and stuff.

How about you?
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Replies to: How involved are your parents...

  • BearlolxBearlolx Registered User Posts: 101 Junior Member
    My parents dont even know what AP or SAT means rofl
  • halcyonheatherhalcyonheather Registered User Posts: 8,987 Senior Member
    My mom drives me to school, and my parents buy most of my stuff. I feel bad, and I have a job, but I don't get many hours.
    They don't know anything about the college search. I like it that way, because it puts all the responsibility on me. I have good grades because I want to, not because my parents pressure me.
  • goodnoodlegoodnoodle Registered User Posts: 1,532 Senior Member
    Mom drives me and buys things.

    Aside from that she has no school input besides that below A=bad and anything that's not Ivy League is only a step above community college...yeah I'm being serious.
  • CE527MCE527M Registered User Posts: 4,989 Senior Member
    eh, they drive me places (Only until I can drive!) and stuff like that, but not too much other than that. They tell me to do the best I can do in school, but don`t pressure me to take AP classes or whatever. They`re fine with me getting a B in a class if it`s tough, they`re not "those" parents who pressure their kids to get 4.0`s and nothing less. They`re the "We`ll support you in whatever you choose to do as long as it`s not illegal" type of parents.
  • 1Rachel941Rachel94 Registered User Posts: 2,116 Senior Member
    Mine are only involved when I want them to be. They've never seen the site with my grades on it. They don't care where I go or if I do. (They prefer I stay instate, but they aren't forcing me to apply. They hope I don't end up in NYC or Boston.) When I want their opinion, they give it. They're helpful when I need them to be.
  • PhilovitistPhilovitist Registered User Posts: 2,739 Senior Member
    They give me stuff to write about in my essays. They tell me that I can't apply to any college that they've never known to be prestigious. They drive me places.

  • ecouter11ecouter11 Registered User Posts: 1,501 Senior Member
    Interesting styles.

    Yeah, I get nagged somewhat and am 100% dependent on them for transportation since they won't let me drive (freaked out by teen drivers).

    I actually know a girl whose parents force her to buy everything herself from her own money....even toothpaste O_O. I mean, i guess it's supposed to make you independent but I don't know if her siblings actually have to do the same and it seems like unnecessary hardship for a high school kid.
  • PhilovitistPhilovitist Registered User Posts: 2,739 Senior Member
    It helps to teach the value of money.
  • enfieldacademyenfieldacademy - Posts: 2,321 Senior Member
    ahah i learned the worth of the coins when i was pretty young. i was really proud of being able to count money.
  • PhilovitistPhilovitist Registered User Posts: 2,739 Senior Member
    Counting and valuing are pretty distinct things.
  • enfieldacademyenfieldacademy - Posts: 2,321 Senior Member
    yeah it's also important what you trade your money for :).
  • logicx24logicx24 Registered User Posts: 679 Member
    I basically on my own. I can drive now, so I can take the crappy Toyota (I think it's like 1999 model) whenever I want (though if I took the Audi or BMW, my parents would attack me). Having a car makes getting places much, much easier, and makes my life a lot simpler too.

    As for college apps, it's all me. I made the list, I worked on essays, asked for recs, ensured everything was in on time etc. My parents are completely detached beyond paying application fees. I find it kind of liberating, to do everything on my own without having to worry about anyone else's input, which just ends up frustrating and annoying me. I also have no location limits or payment restrictions on colleges too, so I can choose to do and go wherever my efforts can take me.

    Same with grades. They don't care about how much I study, or if I study at all, as long as I bring home A's. End results only.

    Not that my parents are the stereotypical "never-at-home" parents. They are home quite a bit: we actually have major philosophical discussions daily. But we don't talk about school or practical things very often, which is fine with me.
  • KakaoukoKakaouko Registered User Posts: 96 Junior Member
    are my parents school-involved? Big no. Up till recently they were sometimes forgetting which class I attend. College apps? I wish they knew the names of colleges I'm applying:D
    On the other hand, they are willing to drive me wherever I want.
  • UKgirl23UKgirl23 Registered User Posts: 2,922 Senior Member
    Mine are the least involved I know. I barely ever get lifts, never to just go out with friends or things like that. I have to cycle to school, or walk then take the train. I'm reliant on my bike, trains and when absolutely necessary, buses (I hate them).
    Money wise, I get an allowance to pay for everything but school things (I still have to buy stationary) It's not enough, because they know I have a job.
    My mum is completely opposed to me going to college in the US, but she says it is my life. She doesn't help at all, but would help financially eg travel if I needed. My dad is too busy to help.
    My parents always expect top grades in everything, but don't have anything to do with my studying.
  • Cens10Cens10 Registered User Posts: 732 Member
    Mine drive me everywhere until I get my license, maybe even after that. They don't know really much about the college process though, like the essays and things I had to do (although I had them read one). I researched everything, did all apps on my own. They barely know what the SAT is lol. But I do tell them what schools I'm applying to and have visited 5 with them. They don't expect much because my siblings aren't in college yet, but they do expect me to do more than them. It's kind of best of both worlds :')
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