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Cannot Go to College? Please Help.


Replies to: Cannot Go to College? Please Help.

  • powercropperpowercropper Registered User Posts: 1,600 Senior Member
    @DoubleFantasy University of Alabama-Huntsville is a small campus in a low cost town. It is a hub for Research/Space/Computers/Engineering/Military, and as such draws many peoples from across the country and around the world. So, the population is diverse and welcoming to new people moving into the area.

    You do not currently qualify for full tuition there, but if you raised your SAT score 40 points, you would get free tuition. This college accepts whatever the GPA is on your high school transcript. They require freshmen to live on campus, but might possibly give you a waiver, and if so, you could find a low cost room to rent close by. Economy is solid, and plenty of part time jobs available.

    We have family in Huntsville, and you can PM me if you want more info. UAH has a solid reputation in the STEM areas, I do not have any knowledge of how good they are with accounting.
  • bopperbopper Forum Champion CWRU Posts: 12,210 Forum Champion
    Can you straight up ask your parents: Do you not want me to go to college? Why?

    If they say yes, we want you to go to college, but we can't pay for it, then all you can do is to ask them to fill out the FAFSA...that is part ofthe rules to get you free money for college.

    If they say no,

    Some parents are toxic/have personality disorders. They are not rational/reasonable. They may not want you to do better than them. They may think you will think yourself better than them if you go to college. They may be doing illegal things and don't want exposure.
    If this is the case, I would do everything I could to get out of their house. Work if you have to, and when you are 24 file the FAFSA yourself.
  • DoubleFantasyDoubleFantasy Registered User Posts: 25 New Member
    @powercropper Parents basically threw this at me at the beginning of my senior year.

    All of this came running at me in a period of one month.

    And thanks to you for the recommendation as well as all the others who responded.
  • powercropperpowercropper Registered User Posts: 1,600 Senior Member
    @DoubleFantasy I am so sorry you are having to deal with this shocking information and all the ramifications of not having parental support as you try to finish strong in your senior year.

    Are you living in an actively HOSTILE environment, or is it just the lack of college support you are dealing with? If you are able to continue living at home, with kind parents who love you and care about you, that is best scenario for helping you keep your grades high and retake SAT. If you are not in a good situation at home, trying to find alternate place to live might be a next step.

    I have relatives that firmly believe it is up to each of their children to handle all college expenses, but they have been very vocal about their decision and the children understand college is their own responsibility. And they live in a state that has some pretty generous state aid for high stats kids.

    Since you live in PA, I understand your options are more limited. Please, please keep asking questions. Or PM some of the posters that are reaching out to you. Note the number of posts under each posters names. Some of them have counseled thousands and thousands of folks, and would be willing to help you think through specifics of your situation.

    Are you signed up to retake the SAT? I think that is a positive step you can take to improve your merit aid options.

  • shawnspencershawnspencer Registered User Posts: 3,110 Senior Member
    What is their plan if they do not contribute to your college education? Do they expect you to afford it yourself or live with them in your post-high school plans?
  • DoubleFantasyDoubleFantasy Registered User Posts: 25 New Member
    @powercropper I signed up for the SAT again, so I'm gonna study to maximize my score. Basically, getting high test scores are the only hope I have if I wish to go to college in 2018 (or 2019 if colleges are really that picky about when they get my SAT scores).

    SAT scores are good for around 3 years right? So let's say I can't go to college this year, it'd still be ok next year? It'd be great to get that out of the way to save a bunch of money during a gap year if I really have to do so.
  • ucbalumnusucbalumnus Registered User Posts: 73,022 Senior Member
    Be careful that a few of the colleges' scholarships may only be available to those attending college immediately after high school (i.e. not available to gap year students).
  • DoubleFantasyDoubleFantasy Registered User Posts: 25 New Member
    @ucbalumnus Shouldn't be a problem if they would accept my new SAT score.

    If they're picky about the due date, then there isn't much I can do then.
  • coolguy40coolguy40 Registered User Posts: 1,856 Senior Member
    edited January 2018
    @CottonTales Right/wrong is subjective and is a matter of interpretation. This is a blog based on feedback, thoughts and opinions. None of us are experts including yourself. This is called brainstorming. I'm giving ideas to work with. Shooting them down only creates despair. Instead of finding a problem to a solution, find a solution to a problem. That's how they get solved.
  • inthegardeninthegarden Registered User Posts: 862 Member
    @coolguy40 this isn't about moral right/wrong but about cut-and-dried policies. I'm a brainstorming kind of person myself, but incorrect information and false hope can be dangerously unhelpful.

    @DoubleFantasy, one important thing to keep in mind,... I think that if you do take a gap year and hope to gain admission as a freshman (and the big 4-year scholarships granted to freshmen) is that if you enroll in even one college course at community college you will no longer be considered a freshman...thus no longer eligible for the big scholarships to four-year programs. Someone (@ucbalumnus, @MYOS1634 ) please confirm or correct me if I'm wrong!)

  • AroundHereAroundHere Registered User Posts: 3,591 Senior Member
    Some schools also won't let you retake SAT/ACT during a gap year. Example, Alabama uses your scores from a sitting on or before December of senior year.
  • evergreen5evergreen5 Registered User Posts: 1,204 Senior Member
    Fortunately Alabama Huntsville is a tad more generous than Alabama. For UAH,
    The award amount is based on GPA and the highest composite ACT and/or SAT scores from one test sitting. UAH will take the highest score from any one test sitting until August 1 of your entering year, so make sure to send your scores if you take the ACT or SAT multiple times.
    Good luck with the March test!
  • ucbalumnusucbalumnus Registered User Posts: 73,022 Senior Member
    @DoubleFantasy may already qualify for full rides (tuition, fees, room, board) at schools listed in reply #27.
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