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Nice girls want genuinely nice guys

rupee2rupee2 Registered User Posts: 351 Member
edited April 2010 in High School Life
I have been having this recurring conversation with a male friend of mine (I am female btw) about what girls want in a guy. Now, I can't speak for all girls, but I know that I want a nice guy, who is a gentleman. A guy who will open the door for me and care about me and listen to me.

I don't want a guy who is some sex god that has dated tons of girls. I don't want to be just another one to add to his list.

This male friend of mine has had relatively little experience with dating (just really awkward. He's actually quite a great catch, son of a neurosurgeon, smart, and athletic). He's a freshman in college and has only gone on a few dates.

He is afraid that girls won't want to date him because he is inexperienced. But honestly, how much does that matter?

Girls, do you care about inexperience?
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Replies to: Nice girls want genuinely nice guys

  • porkpersonporkperson Registered User Posts: 2,071 Senior Member
    I feel like that is kind of a lie. Would you really date a super ugly guy even if he is very nice?


    /male perspective
  • rupee2rupee2 Registered User Posts: 351 Member
    Okay. I mean obviously there must be attraction. But this guy I am talking about is actually quite good-looking. He has girls ask him out a lot, but he is too shy to say yes sometimes and also quite picky other times.
  • trumpetgrltrumpetgrl - Posts: 4,005 Senior Member
    I don't care about inexperience....but there has to be some sort of attraction.

    I'm not sure what else to say to that..
  • PlattsburghLoserPlattsburghLoser Registered User Posts: 5,487 Senior Member
    First, let me state that I am a girl. Apparently, I have masculine pixels that have consistently led CCers to think I am a male.
    Go figure.

    Anyway, how are you defining "nice?"
    In my head, I keep thinking of some super-friendly, sunshine and smiles, does-anything-for-you type of guy who I'd probably walk all over.

    ETA: Ohhhh, I see you're emphasizing experience.
    I'm fine with inexperience, then.
  • rayna3rayna3 Registered User Posts: 2,530 Senior Member
    I consider my self pretty nice, and of course I want a nice guy (who would want a mean guy?)

    looks aren't that important, but he can't be ugly either.... I'm fine if he's average, just not ugly. As long as he's not ugly, personality's next. I'd rather date a awesome, kind guy who's just okay looking then a guy who's hot and has a bad attitude.
  • John117John117 - Posts: 791 Member
    LOLOL All girls want some badass Edward Cullen who can sparkle. They want a dude whose all mean and mysterious and rough and dangerous.

    No girl likes nice guys, even if he's good looking...I've been unjustly rejected waaayyy too many times to finally understand that.
    I'm currently working on becoming a bad boy who doesn't given attention to girls' needs as much. ;]
  • Cody2010Cody2010 - Posts: 1,210 Senior Member
    ^ Right there with ya man
  • thisgirlisaGthisgirlisaG - Posts: 1,338 Senior Member
    totes agree with you, OP. where are all of the nice guys, these days? [& message me your guy friends number, anytime ;} lol.]

    ^^john, from a girl who reads twilight...it's obvious that you don't. edward is practically the epitome of gentleman-liness. hello, he's the freaking sensitive vampire who is in love with a human, duh. i don't know why guys are so threatened/get the wrong idea about the vampires/wolves in the twilight series, lol. guys-take a pointer or two, & move on ;)
  • trumpetgrltrumpetgrl - Posts: 4,005 Senior Member
    ^hahahaha yes! :D
  • Cody2010Cody2010 - Posts: 1,210 Senior Member
    ^^ and guys are really gonna be able to understand your references to twilight..
  • trumpetgrltrumpetgrl - Posts: 4,005 Senior Member
    Well...don't use references to twilight if you don't understand!
  • John117John117 - Posts: 791 Member
    @thisgirlistG: Actually, no. Edward is a CREEPER. He watches Bella sleep and he's developed sexual desires on food, aka human which vampires should EAT, not have sex with.
    And don't tell me he's "vegetarian." Thats both repulsively incorrect in many levels and a great insult to Dracula, the legendary true vampire.

    He's so controlling and so annoying. Very violent at times and a complete idiot for not using protection (oh God, I can't believe I just said this).
    He's classically for some reason portrayed as the typical "bad guy" while Jacob is the "good guy."
    And yet, Edward Cullen has attracted a A CULT OF GIRLS in America.

    I really don't know anymore. Point being: Girls don't know what they want. As much as they say they want a nice guy, they really want a cocky fool who apparently give girls this misguided sense of security.

    PS: Yeah, I'm a guy who had the terrible misfortune to read the Twilight series...
  • WhanWhan Registered User Posts: 822 Member
    Eh, IMO girls want both. Then again, what do I know, right?
  • trumpetgrltrumpetgrl - Posts: 4,005 Senior Member
    ^^Edward Cullen is attractive..Robert Pattinson is not.

    ^true true.

    Read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell's 'Blink', it will give you an insight to the female mind on a few of the pages.. :b We don't know what we want..
  • PlattsburghLoserPlattsburghLoser Registered User Posts: 5,487 Senior Member
    Ew @ Edward.
    Edward is a loser. I keep secretly hoping that Buffy will come out of retirement and kick Edward's ass.

    And Edward is hardly a bad ass vampire.
    Spike was a bad ass vampire.
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