S2, who is now a sophomore, was diagnosed with ADD (without hyperactivity) when he was in third grade. We choose not to treat with medication and he seemed to adapt to his situation and he is now a 4.0 in high school and plays two varsity sports. Our problem however is with the social aspect. Up until 9th grade he had tons of friends and was considered one the most popular kids in school. Everyone seemed to enjoy his quirkiness and off-beat sense of humor.
And then high school hit. For some reason his friends dropped him like a hot potato. I suspect his quirkiness was no longer "cool." I think he is very lonely now but won't discuss it with me or his dad. He refuses to attempt to make friends in a different group because he is still hanging on to the illusion that his former popular friends (who are now major jocks) are still his friends. As a result, he has totally shutdown his fun loving, creative, goofy side. We have decided to get him to a counselor but there is going to be a lot of resistance involved.
Now because of two cousins with Aspergers I am wondering if he might have this instead of ADD or in combination with it. Here are some of his characteristics:
* Speaks in monotone
* Has great difficulty making eye contact especially with adults
* Has great difficulty making small talk with anyone
* Does not accept change well
* Very high IQ especially talented in Math but also a great writer
* Currently experiencing much difficulty with making and keeping friends
* He does NOT have the obsession characteristic that many Aspies do
* He does NOT drone on in conversation. He is very utilitarian with his conversation.
Anyway, I'm very interested in hearing from those of you with experience in these conditions about which area he might fall into. Also what is the best way to treat this?