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My DS'18 has night time enuresis. Shall I disclose that in Parents' Reflection Sheet for GC?

BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
Help! I have been searching CC with the key word nighttime enuresis but nothing came up. Therefore, I decide to start a new discussion. My rising senior has been a bed wetter his entire life. We tried everything but he probably will not stop his bedwetting before entering college. We are all frustrated and too embarrassed to talk about it. Shall I disclose that piece of information in Parents' Reflection Sheet for Guidance Counselor to justify his lack of overnight extra curricula? Academically, he is an A+ student with almost perfect stats. I feel bad for him that he cannot deal with summer camp or overnight retreat. DS'18 has been kept it as a secret and would be very upset if I reveal it to his school. Shall he even mention it in his college app as he has been struggling with it his entire life? Will he be discriminated for being a bed wetter in college admission? The Parents' Reflection or Bragg Sheet has been overdue for a month. I just can't decide whether to say it or not. I know he has been labeled as intelligent but lazy by his school. I feel it is unfair to call him lazy. Thanks.
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Replies to: My DS'18 has night time enuresis. Shall I disclose that in Parents' Reflection Sheet for GC?

  • SybyllaSybylla Registered User Posts: 1,457 Senior Member
    How much medical help have you had? Does he have any other medical issues? Have you aggressively pursued the kind of underlying medical conditions that could cause this in an adult? You have good medical insurance?
  • coolweathercoolweather Registered User Posts: 5,413 Senior Member
    edited July 18
    What kind of EC that requires overnight participation? He cannot be labeled lazy if he did not have those ECs.
    Does he have daytime ECs?
    I would not break the confidentiality.
    Maybe you should ask him to see a specialist.
  • BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    We have very good medical insurance. He has been seen by numerous urologists in world class hospitals. We tried all kinds of bed alarms but nothing works. Thanks.
  • BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    Thanks. Good point. He does have several good daytime ECs. He is a Varsity swimmer and a violinist.
  • SybyllaSybylla Registered User Posts: 1,457 Senior Member
    This is way beyond alarms, what about sleep studies? Neurologist ?When was he last given a big workup with bloods etc?
  • BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    Tried sleep studies four times in his life but found nothing. Strangely, he had dry nights whenever he slept in hospitals. Bed wetters tend to have symptoms similar to ADHD so that's why his teachers think he is lazy for his forgetfulness and procrastination. We haven't tried neurologist but will do next. Thanks.
  • bjkmombjkmom Registered User Posts: 4,561 Senior Member
    For starters, I would ask my son. He may be embarrassed to let his GC know.

    I know of very few extra curriculars that involve overnights, so I'm not so sure it will factor into his recommendation letter.

    If you're satisfied with his medical status, and you both have a handle on rooming arrangements for college-- is he staying home? Or planning on getting a single?-- then I'm not sure there's any reason to consider it in terms of college at all.
  • BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    We can choose not to disclose it but I am worried about doing those roommate essay required by some colleges.
  • Sue22Sue22 Registered User Posts: 4,452 Senior Member
    edited July 18
    I would not disclose now. Many, many kids don't do EC's that require an overnight stay so I don't think it's necessary.

    What I would do is contact the housing office of his college after admission. His condition should qualify him for a single room. As for the roommate essay, he should concentrate on the same things everyone else does- what a great friend and interesting person he is.
  • aunt beaaunt bea Registered User Posts: 8,293 Senior Member
    edited July 18
    As a parent, I would call the school and ask. That way, it's not in writing.

    I had a client many years ago, (1992?) who kept having a "runny nose" and had told me that he had "allergies". It affected his speech and was a concern enough for me to mention it to the parent. When I met with the parent, we reviewed the child's medical history. He was in 6th grade at the time. She was embarrassed but mentioned the enuresis and that her son couldn't go to camp. (I had recently read a study regarding these kids with nasal concerns and "allergies" who also had enuresis, and were treated with nasal spray.) I mentioned this to the parent and she said she would ask her pediatrician about it.

    I didn't know the specifics but the parent called me, about a month later, to tell me that her child had been prescribed some nasal spray and that the bedwetting had stopped and the "allergy" symptoms had stopped. His speech sounded clearer.

    I am not a physician and this case is not specific to your son but has your family explored that medical area? You could ask your PMD?
  • SybyllaSybylla Registered User Posts: 1,457 Senior Member
    edited July 18
    What nasal spray? DDAVP is a management tool, but not a cure.
    A proper workup would include an endocrinologist and neruologist at the very least. When was the last sleep study? No signs of sleep apnoea? When was the last endocrinologist work up?
  • BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    Thanks for all your replies. Will try nasal spray. He does have other physical problems like allergies, athema, and chronic ear infection.
  • SybyllaSybylla Registered User Posts: 1,457 Senior Member
    edited July 18
    You would have been offered a specific nasal spray before now for management of enuresis, does he have a psych?
  • BufadoraBufadora Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
    DDAVP or other similar medication doesn't work. Never tried endocrinologies and neurologist. They didn't find sleep apnea nor elipsey. Thanks.
  • aunt beaaunt bea Registered User Posts: 8,293 Senior Member
    Again, I am not a physician, so you should consult your doctor before you try anything. I agree that your son needs a full work up.
    Your PMD may refer to your ENT, if the problem has been chronic and has been unresolved.
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