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“Lunch with a student” etiquette

silverpurplesilverpurple 102 replies28 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
My daughter is looking forward to her visit and interview this month. She also signed up for lunch with a current student both at Mt Holyoke and later in the week at Clark (while she visits there). Other than promptness, paying for her meal and, of course being generally pleasant, conversant, and smiley, any etiquette tips you would like to add?
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  • VeryapparentVeryapparent 881 replies16 threadsRegistered User Member
    edited April 2
    It sounds like you have it covered. When my daughter did overnight visits she'd always bring a small gift like chocolate (not necessary but probably appreciated). Hope she has a great visit!
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  • silverpurplesilverpurple 102 replies28 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    Thanks veryapparent, she is nervous since Mt Holyoke is becoming her favorite college and is overthinking it.
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  • VeryapparentVeryapparent 881 replies16 threadsRegistered User Member
    Lol she sounds like my daughter! It's a very welcoming place. She do fine!
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  • allyphoeallyphoe 2395 replies57 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    My daughter did lunch with a student at MHC in the fall. At least two (and maybe three; my memory fails me) of her tour, lunch, and interview were with the same student, and they happened in that order. Very relaxed, laid back, no pressure. The Admissions Office covers lunch; there will be no awkward "who pays for this and how" involved. No need to be nervous!
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  • LeftofPisaLeftofPisa 1033 replies31 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    She and her host will probably stumble over each other being pleasant, conversant, and smiley. :-) When we were visiting, we found MHC students to be super warm and friendly. And students tasked with hosting will be even more so. I'm sure they will put your daughter at ease. And Admissions will give her a pass for lunch. Hope she has a great experience.
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  • FireflyLightsFireflyLights 210 replies7 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    Your daughter will be fine! But if she'd like to do something to feel less nervous, maybe she could come up with 2-3 questions to ask - that might make her feel a bit more prepared. Note that she doesn't need to do this at all if it would be more stressful, but it might be a way to calm her nerves.
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  • happy1happy1 22867 replies2251 threadsVerified Member Senior Member
    edited April 2
    She should bring money just in case but chances are good that her host will have a voucher to get her a free meal.

    Your D should be ready for a one-on-one conversation or it might be that the host sees a friend in the cafeteria who ends up joining them. Be sure she understands that whatever happens is just fine.

    I don't thinks she needs to bring any gift -- just a smile. She will be just fine.
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  • momneeds2nomomneeds2no 779 replies4 threadsRegistered User Member
    MHC picks up the lunch tab. She should have a few questions for her host prepared. She should also ask the host about her expirence at college in general. lunch is time to keep things light not like a formal interview. Chew with you mouth closed. No profanity. Keep her feet off the table and she should be fine.
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  • PheebersPheebers 613 replies25 threadsRegistered User Member
    Mostly I'd advise your daughter not to read into anything too much, just to be herself and aside from good manners (tell her not to be constantly looking at her phone!) not to worry. In other words, it's not weird if her host has friends join them at lunch, and it's not weird if she doesn't.
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  • ScooterDeeScooterDee 32 replies0 threadsRegistered User Junior Member
    Clark Admissions will also pay for their lunch.

    🤣 @momneeds2no keep her feet off the table! Can you just picture a prospie doing this?!
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