Hey, guys. I'm a junior still living in a dorm. At the beginning of last semester, my roommate (a freshman) and I seemed to get along fine. However, when school started getting busy, we didn't talk as much. Last semester was stressful for me, because a guy I was seeing really hurt my feelings, and one of my aunts blocked me on social media and basically wants nothing to do with me. Before Thanksgiving break, I discovered bed bugs in my bed. My roommate and I had to bag our things and get a chemical treatment for our room. Not too long after, I got an email from my RA saying she had issues from my roommates that she'd like to talk to me about. We met and my RA took out the roommate agreement and said that my roommate claimed she was the only one taking out the trash (not true), that I leave my desk light on too early/late, and my laundry basket is in the way a lot. I was like, "Why can't she just tell me that?" The RA was like, "Yeah...she said it's not a friendly environment, she's afraid you'll judge her and she doesn't feel safe. She didn't want the three of us to meet because she's afraid of you." Then, the RA said we'd meet again, the three of us, with her graduate supervisor to talk about this. I was pretty upset. I called my friends, crying. I never did anything threatening, and my roommate and I didn't talk much, so I was disturbed that she said that about me. Eventually, after Thanksgiving break, the Ra, my roommate and I met to make a new roommate agreement. I'll admit, I seemed mad throughout the whole thing. In the end, I was like, "This has been bothering me, and I have a right to be upset. Why did you say I made you feel unsafe???" My roommate stared at me dead in the eyes and said, "Because you glare at me, stomp on the floor, and slam the door. Wouldn't you feel scared?" And I said, "I don't believe you're scared of me." She was like," That's because I told my parents about this, and they told me not to act scared so I don't give you power." She also said, "Also, "sanitary napkins should only be changed in the bathroom because body fluids attract pests/ bugs, spread disease and that also makes me feel unsafe." (Also, I changed my pads in the bathroom when my flow was heavy, but when it was light and barely anything was on my pad, I would do it under my desk because it was easier to change my clothes and do it all at once. I also wrap my pads in tissue when I throw them away. The trashcan is in our room, not the bathroom...so now it makes me wonder if she doesn't want them thrown in our trashcan either. If she's accusing me of causing bed bugs, it sounds like keeping them in the trash would be an issue for her. Also, we have bunk beds with desks/drawers underneath. Our area is situated so we can't see each other.) Then she gave me a snooty look. The whole thing was upsetting and embarrassing. She NEVER told me any of this until the RA meeting. After I signed the new agreement, I burst into tears and left. I spent the night at a friend's house. Honestly, I've been thinking a lot about this, and I know I have slammed the doors a few times and looked grumpy when I was upset, mainly because of multiple stressful things happening in my life. However, I was never mean to my roommate or lashed out on her, and I didn't slam doors every day. I talked to my friends and they think she just isn't mature enough to handle confrontation, which is why she never politely told me to keep my lights off or whatever. I also have a hard time believing she is afraid of me because she sometimes would say passive aggressive things to me in the room. When we bagged our stuff for the bed bugs (BEFORE the RA meeting), she was like, "Are we getting reimbursed for this?" I didn't know and she was like, "You don't know, do you?" in a condescending tone. Also, at the beginning of the year, I practiced monologues in front of her for an audition and after the audition, she was like, "How did it go?" I said, "I was so worried." She was like, "I mean, you're not an A-class actor, but for what you're trying to do, you did pretty good." Also, before the audition, she asked me what I was wearing and I said "one of my dresses". She looked at my clothes and then offered me one of her dresses...Maybe I'm looking into those comments too much, but it seemed a bit backhanded to me? Also, I don't think it's fair for her to blame me for the unfriendly environment because there were many times we walked past each other in the hallway, and she wouldn't acknowledge me. This was earlier in the year. One time I waved at her in the lobby and she turned away. I just always got the vibe that she thinks she knows more than me or better than me. FYI, I am known by people for being quiet/shy and I'm very petite. 4'11. She is probably 5'7. Idk. What do you guys think?