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Moving right before his freshman year.
The title says it all. Our youngest begins school a few hours away upstate this fall. But a great new job awaits in California where we'll be relocating this summer. He has plans to travel with friends for a few weeks this summer that means he will leave home on the East Coast and come back to a different and new home on the West Coast, where he knows no one, and will have to hang around for weeks before starting college back east.
So while all our friends, extended family, and his older sibling (out on his own now) are excited for us and wishing us well on a great career move, the rising college freshman has been, to put it mildly, behaving badly -- surly, snappish, and constantly guilt-tripping us about the move and what we're doing to his life. He refuses to ever set foot in our home as long as its in Cali. It never occurred to him that if we stayed he'd be living (more or less) with two intensely unhappy and frustrated parents, which is not a good for his life either.
We're sympathetic to how he feels. But we're also not letting a 17-year-old hold us hostage because he can't hang out with his buddies for a few weeks.
Is there any way to make everyone happy. Or at least make everyone happy, if not now, then over time?
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