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Thoughts on the Movie "Lady Bird" and the Portrayal of the College Search Process

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  • great lakes momgreat lakes mom 3038 replies28 threads Senior Member
    Was anyone else disgusted by the mom giving her daughter the silent treatment for far too long prior to leaving for college? Emotional self indulgence seemed personified by this act, hurtful to all involved, and most moms would be more mature, or so I'd hope.

    It also is an example of a less than nuanced college search. Cow town U and Bernard are two extremes and there might have been far more options in the middle. Not to disparage Davis, which is a fine school.
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  • Nrdsb4Nrdsb4 17370 replies163 threads Senior Member
    edited February 2018
    @great lakes mom, I cannot imagine doing that to my child. My DH would not let that behavior go for more than a few hours without having a BIG conversation about it, much less days or weeks or whatever it was. I also would have plenty to say to my DH if he treated either of our daughters that way. The DH in the movie seemed pretty weak and helpless. Sure, he did go against her wishes by supporting LB's wishes, but it was all on the down low. No direct confrontation at all.
    edited February 2018
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  • VeryHappyVeryHappy 18745 replies328 threads Senior Member
    Yeah, there were a lot of secrets in this movie. Even when the husband finds and shows the letters from mom to LB, he tells LB not to tell her mom.
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  • JHSJHS 18503 replies72 threads Senior Member
    Those of you who liked Lady Bird may want to check out (if you haven't already) Greta Gerwig's other semi-autobiographical films, that she wrote (and acted in), and that her boyfriend Noah Baumbach directed.

    Mistress America has Mozart In The Jungle's Lola Kirke playing the Gerwig character as a freshman at the same sort of Barnard/NYU hybrid which apparently accepted Lady Bird. She's learning how to write, and learning how being a good writer isn't always the same as being a good person, or getting a good boyfriend. And Gerwig plays a fre-spirited woman a few years older, on whom the younger woman has a tremendous crush, while recognizing how self-deluded and screwed up her role model is. It's very funny.

    Frances Ha, which came first, is a further exploration of the charismatic but ADD'd bohemian postgrad Gerwig never really was -- she became something of a low-budget indie movie star while she was still in college -- but maybe sort of felt like for the brief time it took for her to get mainstream success and a mainstream successful partner. This character comes from (and revisits) Sacramento, but went to Vassar.
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  • calmomcalmom 20728 replies168 threads Senior Member
    Lady Bird already seems to be available for purchase on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Lady-Bird-Saoirse-Ronan/dp/B07739DCGN -- though not yet for a rental.
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  • VeryHappyVeryHappy 18745 replies328 threads Senior Member
    ^^^What struck me about the thrift shopping trip was when LB says about one dress, "I love it!" and the mother ruins her moment by saying, "You don't think it's too pink?"
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  • katliamomkatliamom 12992 replies169 threads Senior Member
    edited February 2018
    I can't tell you how many times the words "are you going to wear that?" popped out of my mouth when my daughter was in high school. She never wore anything scandalous... And usually I liked what she bought... but not so much in reverse ;) This year (she's 29!) is the first year in decades that the clothing I bought her for Christmas wasn't exchanged. Woo-hoo !!!
    edited February 2018
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  • b1ggreencab1ggreenca 548 replies11 threads Member
    edited March 2018
    I enjoyed the movie, but for the life of me I cannot see why it was set in 2002/2003. What was the point of that? Why not set it in present day? I thought if it was going to be set in those years that maybe it would somehow factor in 9/11 or something, but it didn't do that either. Why that choice of timeframe, if you're not going to make a point with it?
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  • doschicosdoschicos 22810 replies239 threads Senior Member
    It's not exactly autobiographical but I'd call it semi-autobiographical as it mirrors a lot of Greta Gerwig's life. That said, a lot of books, movies, tv shows, etc. are set in different time periods. Being set in a post 9/11 settings did factor in in terms of the economic weakness of the time and how that affected jobs for certain family members.
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  • calmomcalmom 20728 replies168 threads Senior Member
    Gerwig graduated high school in 2001, so that's the time frame. And it's possible that she deliberately chose to set the movie a year later (2002/2003) specifically to avoid having to deal with 9/11, given the impact event would have had on anyone's senior year of high school.
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  • VeryHappyVeryHappy 18745 replies328 threads Senior Member
    But there were references to 9/11. At the end of the movie, when mom drives to the airport with LB, she says that she won't park -- it costs too much -- and besides, now they won't let me walk you to the gate anyway. Definitely a reference to new airport restrictions.

    Also, IIRC, one of the reasons mom didn't want her in NYC was because of 9/11.
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  • calmomcalmom 20728 replies168 threads Senior Member
    But that's not the same as having include the event as a senior year plot point, as opposed to a passing reference. 9/11 had a huge impact on everyone. So perhaps Gerwig remembered from life experience how impactful that had been on her school experience, how shaken everyone was, the assemblies and fundraisers or whatever that took place, and just didn't want to make her movie be about 9/11.
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  • twoinanddonetwoinanddone 23831 replies17 threads Senior Member
    But if she graduated in May 2001, 9/11 wouldn't have been part of the story at all. She'd have been dropped at the airport pre-9/11. Maybe she wanted 9/11 to be part of the movie so moved everything forward to include it as a new consideration.
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  • calmomcalmom 20728 replies168 threads Senior Member
    Gerwig graduated in 2002 - https://www.biography.com/people/greta-gerwig-21430131
    Like Lady Bird, Gerwig grew up in Sacramento and attended an all-girls Catholic high school (though Gerwig graduated in 2002, while Lady Bird is in the class of 2003); Gerwig's parents also have similar careers to Lady Bird's mother and father.

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  • SOSConcernSOSConcern 3870 replies8 threads Senior Member
    DD and I watched - Redbox now has it. DD wanted to see it. I like movies in the past because you can reflect how different things were, how much things have changed, etc. DD is graduating from college in May.

    IMHO kids may be exposed now to more stress because of technology - knowing so many more global things. I grew up in a 'smaller world'.

    I liked the movie - showing real relationships that do occur in a lot of households and between the characters portrayed.
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  • gibby190gibby190 15 replies0 threads Junior Member
    spot on
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  • jym626jym626 56590 replies2968 threads Senior Member
    ack plane landed before I could see the end of the movie
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