D20's high school is in the throes of elaborate homecoming "proposals." All of D's friends have been "proposed" to for the homecoming dance and D is the only one in her friend group that hasn't. D is friendly, attractive, and well-liked at her school. The kicker is that she's also really smart. She is at the top of her class and is the typical over-achiever. She's in lots of clubs, has lots of leadership roles, and is liked by the teachers and staff. Despite her achievements, D feels bad because she's never been asked out and gets no romantic attention from boys at her school. Watching all of the girls around her get "proposed" to is making D sad.
D asked me what's "wrong with" her regarding boys/romance, and to me, she's flawless. The only thing that seems to make sense to me is that she might be intimidating to boys. I've done a few Google searches on this topic, and it appears that studies have shown that men are less attracted to women that are smarter or more ambitious than them.
Do any smart moms (or your daughters) out there have experience with this kind of thing? Was dating harder for you when you were young because you're smart? Do you have any advice for girls like my daughter? I was an average student, but still got no attention from boys because I was shy. D is the opposite...super smart, friendly, cute, and outgoing.