I work at a small office and one of the women is pregnant. She had an ultrasound and today, we are supposed to wear a particular color shirt: Pink if we think it's a girl and blue if we think it's a boy. I never heard about such things as gender reveal parties until recently (is this new?) and I struggle with celebrating this cultural phenomenon. My daughter has many trans, non gender, and gender fluid friends who have been hurt and by their family and others because of non-gender conformity.
I struggle with putting so much value on biological sex. People seem so invested in the gender of a child which makes it so much for difficult for the non-conforming individual. But, it's a small office and if I don't participate, I worry I will hurt the woman who is pregnant. I can't say "I forgot" as I just received a text reminding me. I feel I should say something, but don't know how. Any advice?