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Romani Jr is on the way

romanigypsyeyesromanigypsyeyes 34218 replies770 threads Senior Member
edited August 2019 in Parent Cafe
So I haven't been on here for a while but I'm not sure where else to turn.

I've been trying to get pregnant for about a year now without luck. We went to a fertility specialist and I was dx'ed with PCOS (something the drs had long suspected but my symptoms went away when I got an implant so I didn't pursue it) & I don't ovulate. The dr doesn't think I was ever pregnant when I thought I miscarried last year. Apparently because of where my cysts are, false positive pregnancies are common. (There's more to that story but that's the gist of it.)

Anyway, I'm on my first treatment cycle. I've been treated with letrozole (femara) and I have an ultrasound Sunday with a ovidrel shot follow-up assuming everything looks OK. I had a HORRIBLE reaction to the letrozole. It made me very sick and I broke out in giant hives all over my body. I never, ever react to medicine so it was quite a shock. If I don't get pregnant this cycle, I'm not sure what the next steps are. (Our original plan was 3-4 cycles of this and IVF after if I'm still not pregnant... but the reaction throws a wrench in that plan.)

But because of all this, I'm feeling kind of down. My mom, sister, and sisters-in-law all got pregnant very easily so they're no help. I went to a group therapy session at my infertility clinic but that was even worse since everyone there is still in the struggling stage. I tried a few other infertility-specific forums and ran into antivaxxers and/or super religious people everywhere so this is my next try lol.

So parents - I know stories from some of you but I need some uplift right now - who wants to share their fertility struggles with happy (child/ren) outcomes?
edited August 2019
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  • abasketabasket 21588 replies921 threads Senior Member
    First of all don't be discouraged if you don't get a lot of posts right now. The posting rate here is WAY down with the recent changes.

    And I don't have personal stories to share but from what I've heard from others, try to live your life as you normally would without letting this issue consume you/it. Take breaks between treatments/cycles if that helps you mentally.

    A year without results seems like a long time to you I'm sure. Who knows what year 2 will bring?! Do your best to enjoy your life and relationship. And make sure that your H is also getting a chance to share his feelings!
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  • romanigypsyeyesromanigypsyeyes 34218 replies770 threads Senior Member
    I should add - one of the reasons that we're being semi-aggressive about it now is because my insurance is incredible until I finish my phd program and beyond that, I have no idea what awaits.

    Because of the lupus, any pregnancy is high risk and I have some other compounding factors which makes it especially high risk. With high risk comes higher medical bills so good insurance is a must.
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  • houndmomhoundmom 341 replies12 threads Member

    I did not struggle as much as you, but I didn't get pregnant easily. First pregnancy took a year after a miscarriage. My 2nd pregnancy took two years after I had some fibroids removed. End of story is two super healthy kids/adults.

    I remember feeling as if I was surrounded by the most fertile people on earth, and that I was a bit of a failure ... truthfully, sometimes it was hard to be happy for friends when they announced their pregnancies, and I felt guilty about that, too.

    Please be kind to yourself.

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  • LindagafLindagaf 10994 replies593 threads Super Moderator
    I hope you get pregnant soon, OP.

    My aunt was like @ChoatieMom . She adopted three kids, then totally unexpected miracle baby aged 40.

    My cousins had three kids via IVF. Second and third kids are twins, and she wasn’t expecting any luck because she had several unsuccessful attempts second time around.

    I have no insight into the process, but I can guess it’s very demoralizing at times. Hang in there.
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  • leennpleennp 39 replies5 threads Junior Member
    Sorry to hear of your struggles, I was in your shoes 19 years trying to get pregnant with PCOS. Back then the initial treatment plan with clomid with IUI. It did work after a few cycles and I delivered a healthy girl who is not a college junior, but I admit the side effects from the clomid were not pleasant at all. So much so that when we were ready to try again for a second child I wanted to explore other options instead of clomid. My fertility doc said ok, next step is injectables, I think Follistim is what we used, does not have to be IM or deep shot, is just subQ under the skin in abdomen. Felt so much better, little to no side effects, worked on first cycle with no hyper stimulation (too many egg follicles) Fast forward to my son is now a junior in high school. So you may want to talk to your doc about going the injectable route, they are more natural hormone like to your body than clomid or femara. Hang in there!
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  • HImomHImom 36061 replies396 threads Senior Member
    My H had a coworker who had fertility problems as well. We never learned details but have been to their two adorable kids birthday parties—the in vitro they did worked!

    Hang in there! Wishing you the very best, as I’m sure you and your will be amazing parents.
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  • 4gsmom4gsmom 868 replies29 threads Member
    Took my sister 2 years and several rounds of in vitro to get pregnant with her son. After he was born she never went back on birth control because she knew she couldn't get pregnant without medical intervention (I bet you can see where this is going...) When he was 2, she went for a checkup and they ran a random pregnancy screening and lo and behold, she was pregnant with number 2. Both boys just turned 22 and 20.
    Best of luck to you! I look forward to you telling us great news soon!
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  • kiddiekiddie 3887 replies242 threads Senior Member
    I didn't get pregnant quickly, we tried for over a year. They tested and my husband had a low sperm count (never learned why) and then a few months later I got pregnant. My OB/GYN was surprised at the time (since we hadn't gotten any treatment). I have a history of cysts and endometriosis which I am sure also played a factor (although they were only diagnosed after my first pregnancy).
    I have a very close friend who did lots of fertility stuff for her first pregnancy and her second (twins) and then two years later using nothing found herself pregnant with number 4.
    Knowing how common fertility issues are, I always cringe when people ask when are you gong to have a baby (I heard this for years).
    Good Luck
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  • rjm2018rjm2018 203 replies4 threads Junior Member
    edited June 2019
    My problem was endometriosis. After a dye study, to make sure my tubes were open, the fertility doctor recommended two rounds of Clomid. If that wasn’t successful, he recommended IVF d/t my age of 37 at the time. I only needed one round. It didn’t take that first cycle, however, my ovaries were still stimulated from the Clomid and I was able to conceive during my second cycle on that single dose. We now have a D who will graduate from HS in 2021. 😊

    To help combat the fierce return of my endometriosis a few years post baby but well before menopause, I started to combat the inflammation it caused with a nutritional approach. I’m a RN and RD and love researching how our diet can help decrease inflammation, I understand PCOS and Lupus both create inflammatory issues in the body. This approach helped me tremendously and I still follow it in my mid 50s (little to no gluten and no milk - caused bloating in me, I do cashew milk for the calcium and vit D, eat minimal processed foods, I drink green tea w/ pomegranate juice and consume other antioxidants like blueberries, avoid soy and I try to eat mostly organic meats and produce bc the pesticide residual can act hormonally in your body and create inflammation).
    Anyway, my post is getting too long now so I’ll wrap it up. Just wanted to say, I’m sorry you’re going through this. It can be very upsetting and frustrating. ((Hugs to you))
    edited June 2019
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  • MarianMarian 13230 replies83 threads Senior Member
    Has your husband been checked out? I ask because I've known couples where both people had suboptimal fertility but their problem was solved by a centrifuge and the medical equivalent of a turkey baster. Getting more of the little squirmers in there never hurts. And it's cheap (relatively speaking).
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  • techmom99techmom99 3535 replies6 threads Senior Member
    I want to wish you the best.
    My D's bf and his sister were both conceived through IVF. When the sister was one, their mom became pregnant naturally. All 3 kids are in their 20's, happy, healthy and productive members of society.
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  • RegretfulRegretful 81 replies12 threads Junior Member
    Go to reddit and look for the sub xxketo. Search for pregnancy and you will see lots of success stories.
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  • momofsenior1momofsenior1 10457 replies124 threads Senior Member
    My bff had PCOS and struggled for years. She had healthy twins after injectables and then a third without any intervention. Hugs and love to you. I know it’s stressful and very emotional.
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  • evergreen5evergreen5 2071 replies38 threads Senior Member
    Also check your PM box. And look at metformin.
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