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Male Hobbies

abasketabasket 21841 replies928 threads Senior Member
Whether he agrees or not, I think my H is in a life slump. Of course COVID doesn't help. But really he was sort of there prior to COVID. Meaning that he just doesn't have much stimulation in his life - and I think it's starting to show in his attitude and well, this sounds kind of awful but everything he has to talk about is the past - and nothing current! (except COVID and politics - shoot me now!!!)

He has been retired for 3.5 years. He does do an ebay business which he really lets consume nearly ALL his time besides watching tv - there is a lot of that too.

I have always encouraged him to add a little something to his daily life - something old (he used to golf) or something new. I know I can't make him be interested in something...but I can't help but think he would feel satisfaction from branching out a bit.

He has a few "friends" - which mostly = guys he used to work with. And they only really talk on the phone and rehash their past work life, COVID, politics. Even my kids have noticed that his life is so narrow. He would be a great volunteer for something! He is smart!

So, that's a long story to ask - what are your husband's hobbies? Or if you're a guy, what do you do on the side - outside of work, home maintenance tasks (we have LOTS of those too but he doesn't want to do them) or family obligations??

Maybe I can spark an interest if I have some things to throw into a conversation.
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  • leftrightleftleftrightleft 475 replies8 threads Member
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    My husband still works full time but he works out about 5 days a week plus golfs and has a once a week volunteer commitment which is usually 1 to 2 hours a week. Normally he has 2 or 3 short business trips (1-3 days each ) per month so with work from home and no travel he has been hitting the bike trails with his extra time. He has a lot of friends so in normal times he gets together with them for lunch, golf or to watch a game.
    He’s very helpful around the house but he’s not all that handy so he’s not doing much of the maintenance!

    He’s also involved in our church although that stuff is all on hold. They have men’s club which has some social events, speakers and some volunteer opportunities.

    My in-laws are deceased so he has no elder care responsibilities but he’s very helpful to me with my dad.

    Not sure I’ve given you any helpful ideas -my husband is an energetic guy who keeps busy but i think in retirement he’d like a part time job.
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  • LeastComplicatedLeastComplicated 1108 replies40 threads Senior Member
    edited August 2
    There are websites where you can search for volunteer opportunities. This is one.

    https://www.volunteermatch.org/

    Someone on CC posted a list of opportunities in some thread a year or so ago. Some were just fascinating and would be great for people who’d like to do something intellectually stimulating. I wish I could Find it....

    He could also search for meet up groups in your area that match his interests.

    Some things I’ve done that can be found online are the great backyard bird watch, and milkweed surveys for monarch butterflies.
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  • compmomcompmom 12057 replies82 threads Senior Member
    There are a lot of retired- and young- men in my tai chi class. You have to find a good one (YMAA, or Yang long form of any kind, for instance). The men like it because it is based on martial arts and on the side we do quite a bit of that to inform our practice. Just a thought.
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  • momofsenior1momofsenior1 10787 replies133 threads Senior Member
    My H is still working but he enjoys hiking, kayaking and skiing. We are buying snow shoes for this winter too. We do most of those activities together.

    He's a bit of a gamer too so he has an online group for some computer role playing game.

    My H also volunteers as a mentor and up until a few years ago also did alumni interviewing. .
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  • VeryHappyVeryHappy 19055 replies336 threads Senior Member
    My DH has volunteered as a mentor. He's also taken up painting, which he's quite good at. And he plays tennis every chance he gets. Unfortunately, since COVID hit, it's basically been jigsaw puzzles, crossword puzzles, and watching old sports events. I wish I could get him more engaged with the world, but he's always been like this.
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  • chmcnmchmcnm 858 replies8 threads Member
    Turn off the TV and computer. You say you don't want to force him...some people need a push...in a nice way. Luckily my wife has never had a problem telling me when I need to get out of a rut or make a change. She's pretty much always right.

    Is there something you like to do together? Is there something you want to do or learn that he can help? Most men like to solve problems. Get a dog? Grow a garden?Maybe a community garden? Sounds like he would make a great Cub/Boy Scout leader. Make it a mission like "kids need role models and need to get outdoors".
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  • me29034me29034 2251 replies116 threads Senior Member
    @abasket I could have written your post. I am looking forward to what people suggest. In my husband’s case he has physical limitations that mean no physical activity beyond walking. He does do a walk everyday but that’s the extent of his activity. Other than that he sits on his iPad all day, talks to old friends, and keeps coming to interrupt me (I am wfh these days). I need to find something else for him to do.
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  • SybyllaSybylla 5117 replies61 threads Senior Member
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    He needs a road bike.
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  • kelsmomkelsmom 16296 replies99 threads Senior Member
    My H enjoys working in the yard. Our lawn & flowers are beautiful. He plays pinball, and we have 3 machines in our basement. He enjoys working on the pinball machines. He also walks with me most days (although he doesn’t walk quite as long as I do). He also likes to watch tv, and that’s cool ... he does plenty of other stuff.

    I am probably the one who needs to figure out what to do with my time.
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  • doschicosdoschicos 26930 replies270 threads Senior Member
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    Tennis

    Rides on his motorcycle

    He coaches at the high school and middle school both spring and fall season, although that is on a pandemic hiatus since March.

    Recently is trying his hand at gardening

    Watches LOTS of soccer

    He helps me with a lot of my volunteer work, political and otherwise. He's my right hand man and I know I can always count on him and volunteer him. :)

    This is on top of all he does for us around the house and yard which is a lot and greatly appreciated. He's also now our Covid errand runner.
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  • ClassicMom98ClassicMom98 691 replies1 threads Member
    edited August 2
    I also could have written this post and last year I pleaded with him to find something because we became empty nesters and he is prone to depression. He loves working out - lifting. Definitely nothing long distance they would eat up a lot of time. He does not want a long distance athlete build. And with aging, he can't work out like he used to => depression.

    He also loves to buy things - action figures and comics and stuff. He eBay's a ton. But all of that requires $$$ something we don't have a lot of and are trying to save so we can leave this place when I retire.

    We did discover going to arcades. We don't have any in town but we have visited several within a 2 hour radius. We have been to a few comicons. Yes, I will support anything. But both of those are now gone with covid.

    He is VERY crafty and artsy. I think he would love painting classes, especially Bob Ross. We have discussed doing that together - if we had any classes around in town. We don't.

    I have thought about big brother/big sisters for the both of us, but I am scared of the commitment.

    He did start spanish this summer. He loved it at first. He spent several hours a day at it. But then he got stressed out and it made him feel stupid, so he quit (with my blessing) feeling stupid => depression

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  • tx5athometx5athome 4084 replies5 threads Senior Member
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    My husband struggled with retirement at first. Luckily he had a buddy who retired a couple years earlier. They golf a couple times a week, ride bikes (regular and electric) fish, etc... My husband also plays poker and dominoes on his iPad. He gardens a lot and is the primary cook. It took a while but he finally settled into a rhythm. When I retire we are going to try pickle ball.
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  • FallGirlFallGirl 8584 replies28 threads Senior Member
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    Unfortunately my H doesn't have a lot of hobbies either... however he does enjoy:

    Fishing
    Playing euchre we are in a club which meets once/month (in non Covid times)
    Doing yardwork
    Woodworking and home improvement
    He is head chef and chief of food procurement (grocery shopping)

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  • FallGirlFallGirl 8584 replies28 threads Senior Member
    ^ LOL ...should have added his obsession with the Green Bay Packers!

    And although we have lived in suburban DC for 35 years...we are midwesterners.
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