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Support for LateToSchool

latetoschoollatetoschool Registered User Posts: 3,143 Senior Member
edited April 2012 in Parent Cafe
Moderator note: on another thread, a poster asked where latetoschool has been, as members had not seen her post lately. Latetoschool responded with the post below, and the entire thread which was on a different topic turned to latetoschool. I have split the rapidly growing posts meant for LateToSchool to their own thread...this thread. LateToSchool....you deserve it and we want people to be able to find it under the right subject heading. All of us at CC will be thinking of you.

With sincere apologies to Weenie and Berurah for hijacking the thread - since you asked - I am here, and I have been lurking a bit. But I am somewhat challenged...

For one week now I am out of the hospital. Unexpectedly, I have been diagnosed with small cell lung cancer, metastasized to the liver. I can count on one hand the number of times in my life that I have been sick. For me to even take one aspirin is a very unusual event. As I have posted before, I do not even drink alcohol. I am wondering if you can imagine my shock, astonishment, and fear as over the past 14 days I have entered a world of more doctors, clergy, lawyers, estate planners, etc. and as I assemble my war chest for this next, incredible battle that by the numbers almost no one wins. I am no Randy Pausch and I do not possess his grace and class.

I have completed five days of radiation, and a week of chemotherapy, and there is plenty more of this scheduled. So far I have kept my regular work schedule, even hopped on a plane and traveled this week, and have had no side effects. Somehow, I managed to become entangled with an outstanding oncologist, and I have a very high degree of confidence in him.

There are many reasons for me to be very optimistic. One, I am not yet 50; I am otherwise in excellent health. I have the ability to control my work schedule and the details of my life and even my physical location, so, I am not constrained by the sorts of things that might contribute to stress. The doctors are taking what appears to be a conservative approach - stopping radiation for now and doing only chemotherapy; they do not want to take a chance on giving me cadiac, pulmonary, or thyroid problems, because I do not currently have any of these sorts of problems. They are taking the position that they believe they can get me to a remission position - but - I have no idea if that is where they start out with everyone, and then they see what happens and adjust from there. My experience with oncology is now only days old, so, I am a bit foggy on how seriously to digest their optimism.

I am sorry to post such unfortunate news but this is where I have been, and, I will continue to contribute to the community as often - and as competently - as I can. I am still enrolled in my Harvard class but find that it does not interest me very much any more, so, I am considering dropping out. I missed the virtual class this past Monday evening - I was 48 hours out of the hospital and still in a state of absolute shock. I sent email to the professor; she said I could make up the work, but, I have a very busy Q4 schedule with many commitments, and, I think that I need to confine my efforts to continuing my professional work, and fighting this disease.

I will say this much: though the statistics are terrifying, if there is a person who can win this battle, I am that person.

I truly hope Berurah, on the other hand, is actually on an island... :)
Post edited by latetoschool on

Replies to: Support for LateToSchool

  • zoosermomzoosermom Registered User Posts: 25,968 Senior Member
    LateToSchool, I will be praying for you and wish you all the best. Please hang in there and please keep fighting.
  • jym626jym626 Registered User Posts: 52,337 Senior Member
    OMG, LTS, I am so sorry to hear that! How awful for you. How did they find this? Were you symptomatic in some way? Our hope for the very best and quickest recovery. You are in an area of the country with excellent medical care. We will all be here thinking about you and your daughter's telephone interview :)

    Oh, and noobie, tell the island dwellers to say hi to coronax for us ;)
  • ColoradoMomof2ColoradoMomof2 Registered User Posts: 615 Member
    Latetoschool - all my very best wishes as you fight this terrible disease.
  • ldmom06ldmom06 Registered User Posts: 5,564 Senior Member
    LTS - I'm without words. I'm very sorry this has happened to you. You have my most powerful prayers.... and with no doubts in my mind or heart, I consider you absolutely one of those people who can win this battle. Absolutely.
  • poetsheartpoetsheart Registered User Posts: 5,488 Senior Member
    Oh God, Latetoschool---what awful news! I'm so sorry to hear you are facing this crisis. You are definitely in my thoughts and prayers. I too believe that if there's anyone who can beat this disease, it's you. Thank you for letting us know about your health challenge. The more people there are sending you well wishes and praying for you, the better. Here's sending you loving energy and a fierce wish for your complete recovery.

  • Zimmer07Zimmer07 Registered User Posts: 643 Member
    Wow, LTS, you've blown me away with your news........shocking. Hugs and prayers to you.
  • curiousmothercuriousmother Registered User Posts: 669 Member

    Although I could never be as eloquent as Berurah,

    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and prayers going your way!

    You have been a fighter and a survivor your whole life, and I know you will not let up now.

    And I do believe you possess just as much grace and class as Randy Pausch!
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 64,000 Senior Member
    LTS...my prayers are with you. I also wonder where Andi is? I would love to hear an update on Andison!!
  • astrophysicsmomastrophysicsmom Registered User Posts: 4,326 Senior Member
    Latetoschool---keep your head up and keep positive---that's the best thing you can do to fit this SOB disease. Your being in good health to start with is a major plus in your favor. Cancer is the most vile, despicable, and downright nasty intruder that can enter any family's life. We'll be thinking of you.
  • lspf72lspf72 Registered User Posts: 2,612 Senior Member
    My heart goes out to you, latetoschool.
    While of course I don't know you personally, all of us here definitely have certain things in common-- so many of the same hopes, dreams, worries, etc. These life-changing events can happen to any of us. Hang in there, and know that there are a lot of people here on CC thinking of you fondly and wishing you strength.
  • mathmommathmom Registered User Posts: 29,733 Senior Member
    LTS, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I am pulling for you!
  • chocoholicchocoholic Registered User Posts: 2,995 Senior Member
    Latetoschool, so many warm hugs and soothing thoughts and prayers coming your way. Be strong through this arduous treatment.
  • corrangedcorranged Registered User Posts: 6,684 Senior Member
    I am so very sorry to hear about why you've been away, LTS. My best to you and your family.
  • frazzled1frazzled1 Registered User Posts: 5,568 Senior Member
    I will say this much: though the statistics are terrifying, if there is a person who can win this battle, I am that person.
    LTS, I don't know you in real life, but I am absolutely certain, based on knowing you here, that you are right. Many prayers and good wishes go along with the admiration I've always felt for you. Please let the forum know how you're doing whenever you can.
  • maritemarite Registered User Posts: 21,586 Senior Member

    I sent you a PM!
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