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Kids who lie to their parents about attending college

longtimelurkerlongtimelurker Registered User Posts: 7 New Member
edited July 2010 in Parent Cafe
I was shocked to find out that a friend's kid pretended to go to college for 2 yrs and lived off the money they were giving him for tuition ! How often does this occur?
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Replies to: Kids who lie to their parents about attending college

  • soozievtsoozievt Registered User, ! Posts: 31,288 Senior Member
    Seems rather odd to me. As a parent, we sent the payments directly to the college. Further, wouldn't a kid who was in the early years of college be living in a dorm?
  • coureurcoureur Registered User Posts: 11,386 Senior Member
  • dadx3dadx3 Registered User Posts: 1,559 Senior Member
    This woman invented a fake kidnapping to avoid revealing that she had been lying about attending UCLA for the past 2 years:
    Woman invented kidnap hoax to avoid telling parents she would not graduate from UCLA, police say | L.A. NOW | Los Angeles Times
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 63,444 Senior Member
    We also paid the college ourselves. If we hadn't been paying the bills, to be honest, we would not have cared if our kid was IN or OUT of college. AND part of our deal...to get the next term's bills paid, we had to see the GRADES from the term completed. No grades...we would not have paid the bills.
  • VeryHappyVeryHappy Registered User Posts: 16,754 Senior Member
    These kids must have some weird stuff going on with their parents for them to want to do this . . .
  • binxbinx Registered User Posts: 4,318 Senior Member
    I don't know how they kept it up for two years. I do know of a girl who dropped out without telling her parents. In GA, the HOPE scholarship pays tuition, and this girl was living off campus. So her parents paid her rent. They found out part way through the semester, when she turned up pregnant, and uninsured, since she wasn't a full-time student.l

    And I have a relative who is extremely good about lying to his parents. But I think it is because they are content to have the wool pulled over their eyes. His mother tends to take the ostrich position on parenting; if I don't know about it, I don't have to deal with it.
  • missypiemissypie Registered User Posts: 18,303 Senior Member
    The son of a friend's co-worker did this...When he came out of the closet, he confessed that he and his boyfriend were living in the condo mom and dad had bought for him and living off the tuition money. I'm sure that when the boy tells his "coming out of the closet" story, he'll portray his parents as reacting very badly - but they were reacting very badly to the not enrolled in college part.
  • quilllquilll Registered User Posts: 371 Member
    I think it's more difficult to do now, when the payments are usually done electronically, but a friend's son did this. His dad wrote a check to the college for tuition, sent it to the son, who sold it to another kid to pay that kid's tuition. Worked for a year.
  • MedwellMedwell Registered User Posts: 440 Member
    Yep, that's what happens when Mommy and Daddy foot you every penny for the cost of life...
  • BCEagle91BCEagle91 Registered User Posts: 22,762 Senior Member
    Wouldn't happen with a helicopter parent.
  • soozievtsoozievt Registered User, ! Posts: 31,288 Senior Member
    Medwell wrote:
    Yep, that's what happens when Mommy and Daddy foot you every penny for the cost of life...

    In my view, this is a ridiculous inference from this situation. We paid for our kids to go to college. We surely knew where they were though. We paid directly to the college and moved them directly into the dorms. The bills were sent to our house as well as current statements, etc. I think we are in the majority in this way, in terms of how payments were made and what we knew of our kids, etc. for parents who do pay for a college education and related expenses.

    (this is not to mention many other ways we would know.....such as visiting them, receiving lots of mail from the college at our home, seeing grade reports, etc)
  • OnwardOnward Registered User Posts: 2,792 Senior Member
    A friend of mine's son did this the last two semesters of college. I don't know all the details but I know he never graduated. They were stunned. I have since heard of another case.
  • soozievtsoozievt Registered User, ! Posts: 31,288 Senior Member
    I don't think it would be odd if a parent paid tuition and the kid never really went to classes, etc.

    What I think is odd is parents giving the tuition checks to the kid and the kid cashing them in and never enrolling.
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 63,444 Senior Member
    I agree with Soozviet...our kids' college bills were paid by us...but the arrangement was this....direct deposit into MY account...auto withdrawal by the college. AND we had to see the grades from the previous term.

    We also had our kids sign the FERPA release so WE could talk to the Bursar's office if necessary...since WE were paying the bills. The kids didn't want to field financial issues questions anyway. If our kids had not signed that release, we would not have paid their bills either. Since WE were paying, we felt it was essential that WE be able to communicate with the bursar if necessary.
  • woodywoody Registered User Posts: 3,861 Senior Member
    My sister did this for one and only semester. We all lived at home while in school. She just went out and worked while she was supposed to be in classes. She never graduated from college.
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