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D changing mind NOW

hlsesshlsess 573 replies116 threads Member
edited March 2011 in Parents Forum
D has been set on going to school with BF to a small LAC

She now has decided that it is better that they don't go to same school- he is a year ahead.
I've told her this all along
It is a state school but she wants to live in an apartment with a friend and I really wish she'd live in dorm but they are not that great

I think it'll be fine and all but you shuttle to/fro class etc

Is it hard to make friends if you aren't really ON campus?

her friend that she's going to visit this weekend said that most of her friends are in her classes-- she may /may not do rush
edited March 2011
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  • emilybeeemilybee 13154 replies35 threads Senior Member
    It's great she's decided on her own not to go to same school as the BF. OTOH, I would make my kid live in the dorm at least freshman year. Not so much for the making friends part but, imo, one doesn't get the same college experience living off campus that you do on campus.
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  • RobDRobD 4969 replies92 threads Senior Member
    Don't a lot of the schools have a requirement that freshmen live on campus? Unless it was within commuting distance from home, I'd want her to live in a dorm at least freshman year.

    ai yi yi Hlsess :) They change so much from Fall to Spring :)
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  • hlsesshlsess 573 replies116 threads Member
    RobD- this school doesn't have enough housing for all freshman so they can't require it-
    I prefer the dorm but it should be fine- main issue will be when BF visits-
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  • Youdon'tsayYoudon'tsay 19275 replies459 threads Senior Member
    I'd make her live on campus for a variety of reasons.
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  • T26E4T26E4 23243 replies1031 threads Senior Member
    "main issue will be when BF visits" what will be the issue? Is your daughter the selfish type that will ignore her roomie's feelings? Otherwise, discuss with her how to negotiate house rules w/roomie. Being considerate goes a long ways. Or do you mean something else?
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  • hlsesshlsess 573 replies116 threads Member
    I think alot at this school MUST live off campus-
    I just meant if he visited that he would be staying there most likely - she will have to set rules with roomies if this all works out
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  • MarianMarian 13230 replies83 threads Senior Member
    If her boyfriend will visit, maybe off-campus is better. The presence of a visitor is less irritating in an apartment than in a dorm double room (thinking here from the viewpoint of the roommate).
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  • ChedvaChedva 18881 replies11658 threads Super Moderator
    If a lot of freshmen live off campus, then being off campus should not have that much effect on social life. The classes will know how to deal with that situation. Likely there are student "enclaves" off campus, dorms include non-residents in social activities, etc. Since it's not unusual, the school will want these freshmen to be happy.
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  • gadadgadad 7471 replies301 threads Senior Member
    Is it hard to make friends if you aren't really ON campus?

    Would it have altered your family dynamics if instead of living with the rest of the family for the past 18 years, she'd just commuted to and from meals and family conferences?
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