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Unhappy at university, parents, what can I do?

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  • HannaHanna 14866 replies42 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    "It's a good school. I don't think UF would be a better choice. There's a larger fraternity presence and drinking on campus."

    Sure, it's a good school, but UF is a better school and one that attracts a larger pool of academically accomplished/focused students. UF is around 15% Greek, UCF 10%. Not a big difference there.

    I agree that this may just be a summer problem. But I do want to know what attracted the OP to UCF in the first place.
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  • Niquii77Niquii77 9994 replies110 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    There's a larger fraternity presence and drinking on campus.

    UF isn't know for their parties for nothing. (Which isn't a bad thing.) This is, like you said, due to the student that UF attracts. "Study hard. Party harder."
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  • MassmommMassmomm 3923 replies81 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    I agree with the others that changing your housing, not leaving the school, is the best option. And I am so sorry you are stuck with a bunch of very immature children who think that freedom from parental restrictions is all about getting wasted. College does not have to be all about partying, and it seems unjust to tell someone who doesn't want to live that way to just "man up."
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  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 41877 replies451 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    I agree with everyone above: ask for a "quiet dorm" or a "substance-free" dorm. What about Honors Housing? Students there tend to be quieter.
    As for "good schools"... well, UCF isn't known for attracting the most serious students. UF isn't either, but at least they're rumored to be more driven and/or accomplished - greater percentage of "serious" students = easier to find but still big party school.
    There ARE serious students but they're not a norm. If you want students who are really serious about learning, look at NCF, where there aren't any grades but detailed evaluation about everything you did during the semester, and even without grades it's in the top 5 public feeder in the US for the ivy league. Would you be willing to look at other colleges IF UCF still isn't your cup of tea in December?
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  • Niquii77Niquii77 9994 replies110 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    If you want students who are really serious about learning, look at NCF, where there aren't any grades but detailed evaluation about everything you did during the semester, and even without grades it's in the top 5 public feeder in the US for the ivy league.
    I didn't know they had such a thing. I'm very interested. :) Can you link it to me please?
    Would you be willing to look at other colleges IF UCF still isn't your cup of tea in December?
    I hope OP would be willing to look. There's a variety of universities in Florida and I'm sure OP will fit in perfectly in one of them.

    Don't forget about the community college/university agreement for transfers, OP.
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  • bookmama22bookmama22 2285 replies0 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    One week in a summer session is way too soon to make any judgements of any sort about what your potential experience will be in college. Almost any college, even Ivies and schools like MIT are going to have a good deal of partying and running around and excitement in the first week of orientation and classes. In the beginning there is a lot of free time and there are lots of students who are not used to having free time and don't really know how to handle it. Most kids will settle down a bit after a week or so of classes. Agree that applying for substance free housing for fall is a good suggestion but part of colllege is learning to deal with other people and other situations outside your norm. Everyone is looking to make friends. You need to extend yourself a bit as well to make some connections.
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  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 41877 replies451 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
  • Niquii77Niquii77 9994 replies110 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    No, the Feeder list. I know of the college.

    But it's ok. :) I've found the list. To say it's in the top 5 of public feeders of ivy leagues when the majority of the list consists of private school is a bit misleading. Especially when the data looks like this: http://www.inpathways.net/top50feeder.pdf
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  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 41877 replies451 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    Actually I wasn't thinking of that one because it includes Business as well as Law and Med schools, but not PHD programs, for which NCF is especially good.
    Anyway: if you're looking for a school in FL or plan to go to a public university, NCF is a very good pick for an undergrad who wants to go to a top grad program.
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  • AlwaysLearnAlwaysLearn 311 replies15 threadsRegistered User Member
    I agree with most of what has been said here. Go to your housing dept. and see if you can find a quieter on-campus, living situation. Explain that it is preventing you from concentrating on your studies/work. Or see if you can hook up with one or more like minded people and move off-campus. See if your parents will support you in helping you to find a more suitable living situation, especially since they really want you to stay there.

    I live in Orlando and relatively close to UCF, so I totally know where you are coming from with regard to the general atmosphere there; however, you should be able to find a quieter place to live where you feel more comfortable and can work without all those distractions. Also, as others have said, the first week of school some people go a little wild, especially those who haven't experienced much freedom before. Things should die down at least somewhat in the next week or two.

    Good luck!
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