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Have you ever been a perpetual student or one's parent?

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  • NeudachnikNeudachnik 27 replies4 threadsRegistered User New Member
    Volunteer work might be a good start if you find looking for a job overwhelming.

    I already have an unpaid internship. As long as I pretend to work my parents pay me an allowance.
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  • LBowieLBowie 1792 replies51 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    Doesn't your screen name mean "unlucky person"? Why be a self-fulfilling prophecy? It's all in the attitude!
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  • NeudachnikNeudachnik 27 replies4 threadsRegistered User New Member
    Doesn't your screen name mean "unlucky person"? Why be a self-fulfilling prophecy? It's all in the attitude!

    I am a Neudachnik -- that does not exactly translate as "loser". I am looking for help.
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  • LBowieLBowie 1792 replies51 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    Having an internship is significant even if unpaid. I hope the experience you gain there will help you in the future.
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  • AlwaysLearnAlwaysLearn 311 replies15 threadsRegistered User Member
    Not sure if this is a serious post or not, but I'll bite and assume it is, since you say you are reaching out for help:

    You ask what you can do. 1) Apply for jobs, 2) Get one, and then 3) Start putting money away for yourself from said job. If you can work an unpaid internship and graduated college, you have what it takes to go out there and get a job. You don't have to move out of your parents' place right away. Take it one step at a time. It sounds like you are really unhappy, and you can change that. Best of luck to you!
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  • NeudachnikNeudachnik 27 replies4 threadsRegistered User New Member
    Having an internship is significant even if unpaid. I hope the experience you gain there will help you in the future.

    I do not work there -- I pretend to work as long as my parents give me allowance and my advisor keeps me. I do not like mathematics, so I do not know how to work on something boring.
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  • NeudachnikNeudachnik 27 replies4 threadsRegistered User New Member
    Not sure if this is a serious post or not, but I'll bite and assume it is, since you say you are reaching out for help.

    I understand that in USA it is hard to find a 40 year old man totally dependent on his parents. But in Asia it is common -- being totally supported and greatly controlled by parents at any age.

    Even in USA it is much more common then in 1970.

    Actually, I am not even sure I want a job if my parents are willing to support me. What hurts me very much is the LONELIENESS after I graduated -- now almost five years.
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  • AlwaysLearnAlwaysLearn 311 replies15 threadsRegistered User Member
    Ah, okay. I missed that you only pretend to work there.

    I understand that you may not want to work, but I'm sure you also know that by being financially dependent on your parents, the trade off is that they will retain that control over you.

    If you have something you might like to do for work and try to get out there a do it, you will meet people and not be as lonely. The question is what is preventing from doing that. Is it social anxiety? Are your parents discouraging you from doing so, so that they can keep that control? You say you feel like a slave. Being financially independent is very freeing. I know it's easier said than done, but once you take that first step towards doing something, things will start rolling along for you, and you will begin to climb out of the rut that you are in. Best of luck.
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  • entomomentomom 22547 replies1111 threadsRegistered User Senior Member
    MODERATOR NOTE: This thread is not about college, please post further comments on the OPs thread on the Cafe.
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