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Parents Weekend


Replies to: Parents Weekend

  • emeraldkity4emeraldkity4 Registered User Posts: 35,861 Senior Member
    It depends on the school.
    My mother & I went to the first parents weekend at a small lAC my oldest attended. But she was so busy we barely saw her. After that I visited when it was best for my younger daughters schedule.
    But when younger daughter attended an instate u, we visited every spring and sometimes also in the fall for parents weekend.
    Youngest also lived off campus after freshman year, so it was easier to visit her.
  • HImomHImom Registered User Posts: 34,234 Senior Member
    When S was a freshman, he said we had just spent 3 weeks dropping him off in CA in August and said there was no point in us coming for Parent's Weekend in October. The following year, he was OK with us coming, as D had just been accepted as a Jan admit and wanted to re-connect with her friends who were attending the same U that she would be going to, so we went that Parent's Weekend. We also went to Parent's weekend in the fall of her SR year of college and enjoyed it.

    I'd suggest following your kid's lead. If unsure, try booking refundable lodging and wait to see what your kiddo prefers (if it won't make too big a hole in the family budget).
  • bookwormbookworm Registered User Posts: 8,809 Senior Member
    My son's school only had Parent's weekend freshman year. I enjoyed sitting in classroom and hearing about the program. I met a local mom, whose son was in same House as my son. She invited me to dinner, and later had son for T-day. The boys became friends thru the 4 years.
  • YoHoYoHoYoHoYoHo Registered User Posts: 2,001 Senior Member
    What about asking the parents on the Tufts section of cc? They will have more experience with the parent's weekend at tufts

  • ClassicRockerDadClassicRockerDad Registered User Posts: 6,365 Senior Member
    We spent $1000 on airfare and hotels to visit our D1 during her freshman parent weekend. We brought along D2 who was still in HS.

    D1 was really busy and tried to accommodate us, but it was clear that we were interfering with the flow of her new life, and it was overall kind of funny how little time we got to spend with her. While it was reassuring that she was thriving, during the breakfast on Sunday I took an informal survey of parents and couldn't find any that were there for their second parent weekend. We didn't go back again for another parent weekend.

    D2 asked us not to come during her parent weekend. She knew better.
  • emeraldkity4emeraldkity4 Registered User Posts: 35,861 Senior Member
    Thats why its really dependent on the school.
    Youngests university held lots of events for families that students did not necessarily have to participate in.
    They had things set up for younger siblngs ( bouncy slides, swings & live music), panel discussions with profs and experts off campus regarding local issues she was interested in. Sailing cruises on the bay, hotel & other discounts for people visiting the university,
    ( this was the spring event held for accepted students, alumni and current families)
  • LBowieLBowie Registered User Posts: 1,842 Senior Member
    My son's school has a four day weekend which he comes home for really close to Parents Weekend, so since we get to see him at home, we have never gone to Parents Weekend. I think he would like it if we came but it is expensive to fly there and the hotels are all booked up. I hope to visit on an different weekend this year.
  • sally305sally305 Registered User Posts: 7,604 Senior Member
    I went for my son's freshman and sophomore years (his college is 13 hours away, but lots of kids there come from closer locations). We didn't participate in any of the scheduled activities. We had dinner together the first night and then went hiking the next day the first year, then last year we drove into the nearest city to go to a mall so I could buy him a suit for a conference. He already told me not to bother coming this year and that the event is mostly for parents of freshmen. It makes me kind of sad because I love his school and it makes me happy to be there (and to see him, of course).
  • sydsimsydsim Registered User Posts: 313 Member
    I informed my D that we wouldn't be coming for Parent's Weekend (she will be a freshman and I assumed that she wouldn't want us there, so I was trying to let her off the hook). Well she was mortified! "But I'll be the only one there without family" (which of course I knew wasn't true, but it was her reality). So we will be there! It's a short cheap flight with plenty of affordable hotel options so the decision was easy.
  • shugmomshugmom Registered User Posts: 32 Junior Member
    We loved Parents' Weekend at Tufts although we live much closer to the school than you do, so it wasn't as big a deal to get there. They showcased a lot of the performance groups, had interesting speakers and it was nice to see how quickly he made himself a part of the school. At the same time, he had friends from the West Coast whose parents didn't come so don't feel guilty!
  • stradmomstradmom Registered User Posts: 4,973 Senior Member
    Depends on the kid, for me. None of mine ever wanted us there, and as a family we resist organized events anyway. Even the kid who went to school an hour away from home preferred to meet me off campus for our lunch dates....something to be said for giving them ownership of their own psychic space....after move in weekend, of course, which is the last opportunity to embarrass them in person...
  • momreadsmomreads Registered User Posts: 3,248 Senior Member
    Went to parents' weekend once with the older son. Very expensive to fly from DC to Birmingham (Son attended the U. of Alabama). My younger son and I stayed about 40 minutes away from the campus. Nice hotel, too. But, over dinner one night, my son said that we should skip parents weekend in the future, because of the cost. Now, my younger son will head to college this fall, and we may reconsider doing parents weekend, because he needs to leave early for cross country practice/move in. This is his first real experience away from home, so he may like the idea of a parent visit. We do not need to do all the activities, either. He may be happier if we go to dinner and hit the stores for groceries. My older son, whenever we visited, loved staying with us and sleeping!
  • Little MotherLittle Mother Registered User Posts: 1,890 Senior Member
    Went to parents' weekend at S's school and attended family weekend - with the grandparents, who loved it - at D's school - both during their freshmen years. Didn't attend subsequent years but visited when the opportunity (traveling for work) presented itself.
  • broadway95broadway95 Registered User Posts: 742 Member
    I am too far to go and it was too costly. I saved it for another weekend so I could go see her show
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