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Do you think it's better for kids to dorm with a friend or stranger the first year?
My grandmother is my legal guardian. I was talking to her about my plans to dorm with one of my high school friends and she told me no absolutely not, that's the last thing I need. Room with someone you don't know, get away from the people you know. College is about meeting new people. The thing is, I'm from PA and my dream has always been to go to Fordham in NYC, so naturally I thought I'd be with a stranger - in a new city, all on my own. It was thrilling and I was feeling up to the challenge and excited. But, now as a senior, I realize how astronomically expensive Fordham is and unless I get the Gates Scholarship, I won't be able to go. I'm going to Temple and I know a lot of people who are also going. It's a great public school, ranked 2nd in the state for my desired major. I am still very upset about not going to school in New York but I have plans to move there after college and look for internships there in the summer. I also filled out scholarships that have work study programs in NYC during the summer. Talking with my friend about Temple is what made me really excited to go there. We're a lot alike, we think similar thoughts on a lot of things. We're both into health & fitness so we can keep each other on track, not to gain the freshman 15. I'll have someone that will want to go to the gym with me, someone who can make me laugh all the time. But, she's also someone who has her own boyfriend, her own friends, who will give me space and not smother me. I'm also studying Journalism & Pol Sci, she's looking at options in the medical field. So, it's not like we'll be with each other every second. I want to get involved in campus clubs. I also plan on partying a little, like a normal college student. It's a huge campus with 30,000 students and I'm really outgoing and social. I'm sure I'll make plenty of friends and meet plenty of new people. But I love the idea that if I'm having a bad day or something, adjusting to a new city, living on my own for the first time, I can go back to our dorm and get a hug and talk to someone I've known for 4 years. I don't need her as a social crutch, that's not what I want. She's just someone I'd love to be around. And considering the fact that my grandmother has no money for my college education and I'll be paying for anything not covered my scholarships/loans by myself, I don't see how as a legal adult who is paying for room and board how she expects to tell me who I can and can not live with. She has never been to college, neither have her children, or any of her other grandchildren. What does she know about college?35 replies
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