so that our grandson would not have to take out loans, we offered to pay his fee gap of about 8000 US per year. this is his second year. all of last year we never received one genuine thank you. we chalked it up to immaturity and felt one day he would grow up and appreciate it. but this year is more of the same. for example, last week he called my husband bloody murder that he had a balance of a couple hundred dollars in fees to the college (that posted after we paid tuition) ... and wanted to know if we could help with books. we paid the college within 30 minutes. we then texted later that night just to say it was taken care of and we asked what classes he was taking. no response. this is typical.
would ending this arrangement be okay? I hate to say it but we feel used.