I'm sorry if this is already a discussion somewhere, but I didn't see it.
As a former dorm dweller myself, I believe that I would have done so much better in college if I'd had my own private apartment off campus and going to more of a commuter school than I did. My son is an only child, he's never had to share a bathroom in his life, is so modest that he locks the bathroom door just to wash his hands, and absolutely needs complete peace and quiet to do his high school studies. How in the world could he be expected to share a cubicle-sized room with a stranger for nine months and actually relax enough to get any homework/studying done because he's so stressed out about this new bizarre living situation he's found himself in and just the sheer distraction of the noise that comes with dorm living? He can't even stand to have his close friends around him for extended periods of time ... he needs that isolated time to recharge.
I'm just really concerned about this because I just found out that the nice little commuter university we'd had all picked out apparently has instituted some lame residency requirement for all freshman/first years to live on campus. This is going to mean a complete re-visiting of choosing a school. He is emphatically NOT interested in the "rah-rah" campus experience.
Does anyone have any really good suggestions for things we could do to get him "exempted" from this requirement? Anything that has actually worked without too much fuss with the housing directors at your colleges? I wonder if moving him to the vicinity of the school a few months in advance would do the trick. I can't believe they're pulling this anyway. This school has ALWAYS been mainly commuters, lots of adult students, part-timers, etc. Say what you will, but in their heart of hearts, when all the doors are closed to those administrative offices at the college, they are admitting that this is really all about the money and trying to get their hands on more of mine to pay for all of their recent construction on campus!