So I'm transgender and my parents are aware of this. However, my mom especially doesn't seem to understand than means I need to take extra steps when figuring out if I want to apply to a school like checking out their Campus Pride Index rating, what they offer (i.e. gender neutral housing, hormones as part of student healthcare, covering gender identities in their anti-bullying policies), and how safe I think I'd feel their given this extra factor. She seems to think I'm being super picky, but I think I'm being reasonable. You seem, she keeps pushing UNCW, while I'm iffy on them because, while I'm a resident of NC and I want to major in marine bio, I can't find their transgender student policies and I'm not too convinced it's a particularly trans-friendly school.
How do I explain this to my mom without her thinking I'm being unreasonably picky? I just want to feel safe and accepted on campus, so I feel I should take this into account when applying to schools.