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Do you check your kids grade in college?

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  • Asil65Asil65 223 replies3 threads Junior Member
    Ouch! SlackerMomMD that one must have stung as a kid.
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  • oldfortoldfort 23511 replies308 threads Senior Member
    I always checked on my kids' grades in the beginning. Once I felt like they were on track then I stopped, but they still told me their semester grades. I wanted to know if they were adjusting to college course load. It can be a hard adjustment for some kids.
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  • thumper1thumper1 78501 replies3537 threads Senior Member
    @SlackerMomMD

    Just clarifying....I did NOT have access to my kids' student portals. That is how they chose to show us their grades.

    Actually, in DS's case (2003-2007) the university mailed the grades "to the parents of Thumperson.
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  • ordinarylivesordinarylives 3212 replies45 threads Senior Member
    Nope. Don't ask. Don't have access. However, I need a copy of grades for the good student discount on my car insurance. D can scan and send them herself, but she'd rather not be bothered, so I will find out what they are.
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  • KJM64KJM64 6 replies1 threads New Member
    I use old-fashioned conversation. During the school year, I ask them how their classes are going and if they are having any problems or need anything. At the end of the semester, I ask what their grades are and they tell me. ;)
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  • SeeksKnowledgeSeeksKnowledge 192 replies24 threads Junior Member
    Yep I've got the online portal user id and password and I periodically get on and check. Trouble is this semester only 2 classes are using the online portal. DD seems to always think she is doing fine. She's an engineering major and most of her classes have curves. I try not to freak out until the curve is taken into consideration at final grade time because it does make a difference.
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  • thumper1thumper1 78501 replies3537 threads Senior Member
    Oh for the record...It never dawned on me to check my kids' grades during the term. I didn't do that in high school either. We expected them to get respectable grades. We did talk about their classes and how things were going.

    But go onto a student portal and check each class grades during the college term? Nope...never did that.
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  • ProudpatriotProudpatriot 1538 replies12 threads Senior Member
    I just ask.
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  • OHMomof2OHMomof2 13237 replies247 threads Senior Member
    D often tells me. I do have access but I haven't used it.
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  • SpaceshipSpaceship 295 replies56 threads Member
    edited April 2016
    My parents asked, and I told them my education is none of their business. Then again, they don't pay a cent towards college, and we teeter on the edge of estrangement almost constantly. If I don't need to know my mother had a stroke, they don't need to know my grades.
    edited April 2016
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  • 1Dreamer1Dreamer 550 replies3 threads Member
    True snippet my mom upon seeing my grades when I was in college: Are you having fun in school?
    me: No! I'm struggling. I'm having a tough time with these classes.
    mom: Too bad. With these grades, you should be having fun.

    @SlackerMomMD, that’s too funny. I literally laughed out loud.

    My true snippet . . . . my mother once said “maybe I should actually see something from college at some point to prove you are enrolled.”

    We both laughed and she never brought it up again. :)
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  • SlackerMomMDSlackerMomMD 3085 replies9 threads Senior Member
    @1dreamer. I went to my father's university so they knew I was enrolled. My parents saw my final grades but I don't think even the professors who knew my father said anything to him about I was doing during the semester. My relationship with my professors were quite separate from their relationship with my father.

    Just for the record, *I* don't do well with just the online portal. I think many parents see it as just another tool and use it sensibly. I panic too easily so I need the dialogue with my child to put things in perspective.
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  • Mom2aphysicsgeekMom2aphysicsgeek 4744 replies56 threads Senior Member
    I've never had to ask. They have all shared. I'm trying to picture a scenario where I would feel the need to "check" on my adult kids. That just isn't the type of relationship we have. But, if their grades had fallen, they would have (had) problems b/c they have all had scholarships with GPA requirements. W/o the scholarships, they wouldn't be (have been) able to pay their college bills.

    But, equally, that is not a parental problem from our family's perspective. If they lost/lose their scholarship $$, they would lose the opportunity of attending that school. We wouldn't pay the difference. That is their reality. For them, it is what it is. (FWIW, all of our kids so far have managed to maintain honors level GPAs.)
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  • romanigypsyeyesromanigypsyeyes 34218 replies770 threads Senior Member
    edited April 2016
    My parents had my password to my portal. They never used it. I don't even think they would know how to access it even with my login info lol.

    My parents didn't pay for my education but I still told them how I was doing- the good and the bad. They never much cared about my grades but they were always very concerned about my mental health (since I was holding down a full time job while going to school full time). They didn't go to college so just going was an accomplishment in my family :)
    edited April 2016
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  • turtle0099turtle0099 33 replies3 threads Junior Member
    forget college my parents going to check grade in medical school they made me sign privacy waver
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  • HoggirlHoggirl 2137 replies215 threads Senior Member
    @Spaceship - your post makes me sad. I'm sorry. :(

    @turtle0099 - wowza! Are they paying for your med school studies? Your post makes me sad, too. :(
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  • turtle0099turtle0099 33 replies3 threads Junior Member
    @Hoggirl yes, how comes it makes you sad though?
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  • LKnomadLKnomad 1247 replies8 threads Senior Member
    Well my son just enrolled in a college that does not provide students with their grades unless they specifically ask for them. So if my own kid doesn't want to know his grades, I have no right to ask for them.
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