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Do you check your kids grade in college?

WorryHurry411WorryHurry411 950 replies162 threads Senior Member
I just realized that there is no way for parents to know if their kids are doing well in college or not, unless kids share their grades? Do you check your college kid's grades?
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  • bodanglesbodangles 8628 replies557 threads Senior Member
    My parents check my final grades near the end of the semester when they're rolling in one by one. Otherwise I usually just tell them how such-and-such test or assignment went.
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  • WorryHurry411WorryHurry411 950 replies162 threads Senior Member
    I feel that asking for a proof is sort of showing that I don't trust their word. So far, they have given me no reason to doubt it.
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  • beth's mombeth's mom 3256 replies110 threads Senior Member
    I have access to my student's portal (she gave me the password), so I can see anything online that she can. I usually look at her final semester grades, but I don't look at anything else. If I want to know about anything in the interim, I can ask her, but we would not usually discuss grades or classes unless she brought them up in conversation (which is extremely rare).
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  • tx5athometx5athome 4053 replies5 threads Senior Member
    I have access to the portal (he gave me the password) and I check the final semester grades.
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  • HoggirlHoggirl 2136 replies215 threads Senior Member
    We expect our ds to tell us what his grades are at the end of each quarter. I have absolutely no access to his grades/portal nor would I ask for it.
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  • cmb1828cmb1828 74 replies12 threads Junior Member
    I ask how grades/classes are going, if he has any concerns, etc. If he isn't telling me the truth, it will come out eventually, since he has scholarships tied to minimum GPA maintenance. He understands the importance of maintaining his grades, and I believe our relationship is such that he would tell me sooner rather than later if he were running into trouble.
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  • MagnetronMagnetron 2665 replies5 threads Senior Member
    We had a terrible time trying to set up a parent account on the school portal, so I just got my kids' login info to pay the bills. I can check their final semester grades but all the other info (individual test grades, professor communications) goes through a different system.
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  • mackinawmackinaw 3040 replies54 threads Senior Member
    We were sent the grade reports every term by the colleges. My son also usually discussed his planned course selection for the coming term. My daughter did too, though her options were much more constrained.

    Grades, as long as they were passing or better, were of less interest to us than progress in the programs as well as the kids' sense of well-being.
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  • katliamomkatliamom 13972 replies170 threads Senior Member
    I'm like Pizzagirl. I didn't ask, I knew she was working hard and doing her best. In the end, that's "all" I ask.
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  • partyof5partyof5 2587 replies126 threads Senior Member
    Im paying, Im checking.
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  • Mom24boysMom24boys 933 replies47 threads Member
    I don't have access to my kids grades, but I do expect them to share end of semester grades. They do and I get general updates on how classes are going during the semester.

    I have found it is almost more important to have them discuss course selection. I am in the midst of trying to convince DS2 he needs to take a math course next year. I also help them get their thoughts organized before meeting with advisors regarding course selection.
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  • Erin's DadErin's Dad 34148 replies4924 threads Super Moderator
    Our D's kept us informed on grades, particularly since they had min GPA requirements to keep their scholarships.
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  • thumper1thumper1 78491 replies3537 threads Senior Member
    My kids very willingly showed us their grades through their online portal. If they had not done so, we would not have paid the bill.
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