Fraternity discussion with Freshman on Parent's weekend ?
My son is considering a frat, one where the process allows plenty of time to get to know each other,
no bids to anyone yet. Just hangout and meet brothers a few times/week to make sure this is right.
Supposedly a no hazing frat, on a campus known for less wild parties than many other frat oriented schools
(tech school where kids study alot).
Still I worry, for a couple of reasons :
1) He did not drink in HS, don't want him to get started now
2) House is far off campus, unlike many others (and no car)
3) He is very busy with a D3 sport, tough major and interest in other clubs
National frat with bad reputation, though he says this chapter has self imposed rules...
Didn't want to get him a car, wanted him to live on campus 2 years.
OTOH, dorm mates and teammates are mostly in frats or freshman looking into them.
He does not seem set on this, but thinks he found a frat that is friendly and not so crazy
(no hazing supposedly). I just don't believe it. I worry about his time, reputation of the frat,
driving more if he lives off campus eventually, and distractions from a very busy schedule.
Ideas on how to discuss this on Parents weekend, and what to look for to determine
if this is a good social outlet for him, a distraction or worse a path to trouble ?
Thanks for your thoughts.