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Lies and exaggerations in the college process


Replies to: Lies and exaggerations in the college process

  • 1Dreamer1Dreamer Registered User Posts: 398 Member
    @FallGirl , I think that’s where luck came in for me. My intuition of what would be the best fit for me was correct, but I could have been wrong. As I said, I was unhappy in grad school, but I did not go with my intuition in that case. I chose with my brain and ignored fit.

    I know “you bloom where you’re planted” works for some and it sounds like it worked out great for you, but not for your son who transferred, and not for me in grad school.
  • twoinanddonetwoinanddone Registered User Posts: 14,522 Senior Member
    That it's all a done deal after you pick the school and the major, and that 4 years later you'll have a college grad.

    I know so many kids who transferred after a semester or year that I almost consider the senior year pick 'round one.' My daughter was visibly relieved when I told her she could change her major (meant giving up a small scholarship) because she just felt stuck. She won't finish in 4 years and I'm okay with that too because she is just a kid who needs more time. Her initial major had her taking 17+ credits per semester and it was too much for her.
  • SuburbMomSuburbMom Registered User Posts: 257 Junior Member
    I'm wondering if how happy you were with college has some dependence on how miserable (or happy) you were in high school. I had friends in high school that I enjoyed doing things with, but I didn't like high school. Too many cliques, too much peer pressure, and a lot of immaturity. College was the first time I felt like I really fit in.

    But "best four years of your life" is stretching it for a lot of people. There's just so much to experience after graduation.

  • CADREAMINCADREAMIN Registered User Posts: 2,954 Senior Member
    edited February 6

    I think if you are going to college thinking it's mind or life altering you are setting yourself up to be disappointed. It's all part of a journey. I went to an essentially no name school and was pretty much wasting my time until I woke up and decided to really attack my courses and learn everything I could in every class. It was like I transferred to an Ivy from that point forward.

    I just copied this and sent it to one of mine in college and my HS senior. Post of week (pow) honors in my book. :)
  • marvin100marvin100 Registered User Posts: 9,014 Senior Member
    KateFitz wrote:
    the misconception that anyone can pay for college as long as they hold a job through their four years.

    Oh yea, couldn't agree more--I've had this conversation with so many folks from the older generation who don't understand how much this landscape has changed.
  • novafan1225novafan1225 Registered User Posts: 677 Member
    I agree with the "best four years of your life" thing- it can lead to a lot of disappointment for some, especially those who particularly enjoyed high school. It is a very tumultuous time with a lot of growing; it certainly brings a lot of lows with the highs for many.

    That being said, I've never interpreted it as adults "warning" me that the rest of life is going to suck. I've always kind of taken it as "you're only young once". Honestly, the mindset has helped me to do a lot of fun things and have crazy stories and experiences I know I'll never forget. I don't think everyone necessarily needs to be reminded to have fun, but a lot of students (like many/most on CC) work their tail off in high school and can forget to take it easy sometimes.
  • merethingmerething Registered User Posts: 171 Junior Member
    @KateFitz My mom was also convinced that schools offered merit aid to the kids they really wanted even if they claimed they didn't give out merit scholarships! Not sure where that one came from.
  • northwestynorthwesty Registered User Posts: 2,818 Senior Member
    That the amount of money you actually "need" to pay for college is in some way related or comparable to what the college thinks your "need" is.

  • tutumom2001tutumom2001 Registered User Posts: 621 Member
    Colleges that claim to meet full need. OK, I realize that their definition of need may be different than mine. BUT, when running one in-state LAC that claims to meet full need, the results came back that we are expected to pay about two-thirds of our net income. We are solidly middle class, and there is no way anyone with our net income can pay two-thirds for college. Heck, my mortgage payment isn't even half that figure.
  • roethlisburgerroethlisburger Registered User Posts: 1,746 Senior Member
    Your major doesn't matter, especially if you have no plans for graduate or professional school.
  • CaliCashCaliCash Registered User Posts: 2,774 Senior Member
    edited February 16
    your kid is smart, they'll get a scholarship

    I don't look at this as a lie or misleading. Even if your child is smart, are outside scholarships easy to come by?

    However, there are a plethora of mid tier state schools that throw money at top students to get them to commit. Off the top of my head, Alabama, Mizzou, Howard, Clemson, FGCU, LSU.
  • carolinamom2boyscarolinamom2boys Registered User Posts: 5,797 Senior Member
    @CaliCash I would've agreed with you until this year, but hundreds of very high stats students are being waitlisted , deferred , bridged and even rejected at mid tier schools. Money is no longer " thrown" at high stats kids .
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