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Lies and exaggerations in the college process

lvvcsflvvcsf Registered User Posts: 1,879 Senior Member
This is a segue off of some conversations I've seen recently. I'll add few that I've heard and even said.

From friends and family...your child is such an excellent student they'll get a full ride/into any school they want....
I've heard myself say...college is the best 4 years of your life...until I actually reflect on it. Sorry kids
Don't worry about money, you'll find a way to cover it.
Poor kids have it easy because they get so much financial aid
If I apply to enough great schools I'm sure to get into one

Replies to: Lies and exaggerations in the college process

  • TrisherellaTrisherella Registered User Posts: 932 Member
    Well for me, in a lot of ways college WAS the best 4 years of my life, at least as a single person. Much better than high school, and a lot more carefree than post-highschool.

    Also at the time I was a relatively "poor kid" -- my dad worked on a teacher's salary, six kids, my parents' contribution was pretty much zilch, they only had to pay my transportation to and from school, and I got absolutely terrific financial aid at a highly ranked school. (I only *somewhat* realized how fortunate I was at the time.) Looking back on it, I'm sort of amazed at how it worked out.

    I agree with many of your other points though.
  • HRSMomHRSMom Registered User Posts: 4,188 Senior Member
    The best 4 years of your life...

    And then they are not. So many kids think it will all be different at college. Shy studious kids will make tons of friends and party. Party kids will start to get serious and studious. Expectations galore!
  • zobrowardzobroward Registered User Posts: 3,933 Senior Member
    it would be cool if you could press a button and every essay and every gpa/ test score etc...was sent for free to every 4 year accredited college and you see how many you get accepted to or rejected from.

    you would get into a few by surprise and rejected by some that would surprise you too.

  • lvvcsflvvcsf Registered User Posts: 1,879 Senior Member
    I hear this often when talking to parents of up and coming college students. I think it is a knee jerk reaction to visiting colleges and our propensity for romanticizing past events and forgetting the challenges. I did say that once and then upon reflection backtracked. For a moment I was remembering never having to cook a meal, clean up afterwards, and there were people my own age in abundance. Later I remembered how tired I got of eating the same food, tired of sharing a room and rarely having privacy. In the end we talked about the transition that takes place at college, that there will be some great things that happen and that each part of life as its own challenges and rewards.
  • droppeditdroppedit Registered User Posts: 702 Member
    So many kids think it will all be different at college. Shy studious kids will make tons of friends and party.
    D18 falls into that category. Of course, in 8th grade she thought HS was going to be the Promised Land. I do think that people will be somewhat different in college, so maybe it'll work out ok.
  • gouf78gouf78 Registered User Posts: 5,694 Senior Member
    Actually as a shy kid I did make tons of friends and party. It was a great 4 years. Still have the friends too!
    Also studied my butt off which nobody talks too much about...much easier to go to work and get a check.
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 63,483 Senior Member
    How about this...

    "Just get a job as an RA."

    Um...no. Don't think you are guaranteed one of these competitive jobs!
  • socalmom007socalmom007 Registered User Posts: 1,017 Senior Member
    I think the "your kid is smart, they'll get a scholarship" is the biggest one.

    The other exaggeration or fallacy I hear a lot these days and I'm trying to wrap my head around is that kids can't hold down a job during college... um, why not? I worked 30 hrs a week all the way through college, I can't imagine why a kid can't hold down a part time job and help fund some of their incidental expenses.
  • phoenixmomof2phoenixmomof2 Registered User Posts: 681 Member
    edited February 2
    The "full ride" one is interesting. For us, I don't want anyone to know my financial business. My DS get some good "money" from one of his admits. But, some is merit based and some is aid based. Since I don't need anyone to know otherwise, some will go one believing my DS got a "Big Scholarship". That's how I'll leave it.

    So, full ride could mean loans, merit based, FA, maybe only full tuition.... etc.
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