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Co-ed bathroom in dorms - am I crazy and how can I find out details from schools on our list?


Replies to: Co-ed bathroom in dorms - am I crazy and how can I find out details from schools on our list?

  • SwimmingDadSwimmingDad Registered User Posts: 922 Member
    @mmmyaisinuse They do but they cannot be ruled by n=1; they must meet the desires of the majority to maximize interest and applications. And that leaves the market open to other colleges to go after other niches: catholic; christian; Jewish; way way liberal; artsy; business focused. It's what makes our system great....choices. The fact that parents are obsessed with the same few colleges is a parent problem; there are lots of choices.

    When I went through this process with my oldest there were definitely schools that we left within an hour of arriving...they were .just not for him. I'm about to take my first short road trip with my second (and youngest) to three schools. I'm sure he will say "we're outta here" to at least one of them. This is what happens in a free market economy. I kind of like it.
  • momofthreeboysmomofthreeboys Registered User Posts: 16,676 Senior Member
    Agree, no one should be "dissed" for having something on the desired list (or not). What trumps what in terms of what colleges offer is individual and not irrational. As parents we have some obligation to respect our children and their opinions. We can point out through dialogue how we might feel different, without being dismissive. Same for adults engaged in discussion. IMO, your personal space is very high on the list. Others may thrive where they are planted or "go-along" if they don't have strong feelings. I'm not one one that subscribes to the "they will get used to it" train of thought...some will and some won't.
  • OHMomof2OHMomof2 Registered User Posts: 12,619 Senior Member
    @mmmyaisinuse My D was going through the Williams or Amherst? exercise....and this ended up being the reason she ended up EDing to Amherst. Didn't bother me as much, but to my D it apparently was just enough to tilt the scale. Which ended up being a good thing since she was accepted. I wonder if colleges are even aware of this issue...that when kids choose schools the smallest of things actually do matter.

    This is confusing to me, because D goes to Amherst and her dorms have always had gender neutral bathrooms. In some cases also gendered ones.

    How is Williams different?
  • HannaHanna Registered User Posts: 14,902 Senior Member
    "I doubt a college would care. They have more applicants waiting in line."

    Any college, whether it's Harvard or Whoville State, ignores student preferences at its own peril. All the applicants are not created equal. They want the students they want. If they're losing students they deem desirable to their competitors, they generally will act to change those students' minds. That's how we end up with lazy rivers in the student gym.
  • doschicosdoschicos Registered User Posts: 20,371 Senior Member
    Colleges and universities welcome diversity. Part of welcoming that diversity is providing places where students feel comfortable. For personal and religious reasons, some students will be uncomfortable with coed bathrooms. If you are one of these students, definitely contact the Residential Life office as they will most likely have options for you. As stated many times before in this conversation, most schools will have options like female only housing and other set-ups. As I posted back in post #8, MIT, which was the school at the crux of this conversation, has an all female dorm option.
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