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Cheap school = "trashy" dorm life?


Replies to: Cheap school = "trashy" dorm life?

  • NEPatsGirlNEPatsGirl Registered User Posts: 2,761 Senior Member
    My D had great luck with her substance free housing for the first two years. She is now in an apartment with like-minded students who, when they do partake, do so maturely and with respect to others. The substance free dorms also provided a much quieter atmosphere for studying so that going to the library wasn't always necessary.
  • Eeyore123Eeyore123 Registered User Posts: 962 Member
    I actually think that the OP is one of the marketing majors from post #26 trying out a viral marketing campaign on their new line of Trashy dorm room accessories.
  • barronsbarrons Registered User Posts: 24,862 Senior Member
    Apparently denial and delusion are rampant.
  • SwimmingDadSwimmingDad Registered User Posts: 783 Member
    @veruca I think I have a little crush on you. Haha! In all seriousness, you nailed the answer. College is a great time to have your norms and beliefs tested and figure out the person you are. As parents we do our best to instill values in our kids and hope when the time comes they simply do stupid things and not idiotic things. (I'm trying to impart this lesson my on 17 year old right now...with only minimal success so far. :-)

    And I'm still waiting for the person who claimed that schools in the South and West drink less to put forth the data to support this assumption.
  • yourmommayourmomma Registered User Posts: 1,043 Senior Member
    I would tell you this. Sounds like Indiana and you have lots of options in that state. From IU and Purdon't, to DaPauw and Wabash. And everything in between. Now if your talking about the two BIG10 public schools, they are both pretty good academically and quite reasonable for instate students. So you have that going for you.

    I would not have the kid stay at home. The first year is key to getting acclimated to college life and cutting the cord with mom and dad. My neighbor sent both kids less than 1 hour away to local schools, with no car, and told them "we'll see you at Thanksgiving." They never came home, ever, except for the holidays and breaks.

    As for trashy behavior, your kid will need to lean how to deal with it (however you define it). It's not like it is the wild west in the dorms. There are rules and reasonable supervision. Like others say, you can look for floors that may be more like minded students. But in any group setting, you'll have everything from A to Z. We had everything from Tony Montana to Mary Poppins. That's just life. Good luck.
  • ucbalumnusucbalumnus Registered User Posts: 72,912 Senior Member
    edited December 2017
    And I'm still waiting for the person who claimed that schools in the South and West drink less to put forth the data to support this assumption.

    http://www.indiana.edu/~engs/articles/jade.htm table 5 and 6 indicate that college students in the west and south are more likely to abstain from alcohol (about a third, versus about a fifth for northeast and northcentral), and those who do drink have lower average consumption.

    It does not say why there is a lower drinking tendency in the west and south.
  • twogirlstwogirls Registered User Posts: 6,659 Senior Member
    edited December 2017
    My daughter attends school in the south and we were told at orientation that 33% of students never drink. My D does not drink... but she does have some friends who occasionally drink ... responsibly ... and none of this has ever been an issue. They may go out to dinner- some may have a drink, others may not. They may go to a small gathering where some may drink, others may not. I am actually happy that my D has learned how to navigate these situations successfully and comfortably. I am sure there are casual hookups at her school... they happen at every school. It is up to each individual to make wise choices- we can't shield them from everything... we can only educate them.

    A "cheap" school has nothing to do with this. Whether you spend $70,000 or $15,000 a year... it's still a lot of money and the tuition we all pay has little to do with the behaviors of the students attending. My D is not a partier... Never was.... she prefers other activities.... and the cost of the school would not change that.

    And my D... being OOS... likely pays more. Does this mean that the instate students are "trashier" because they pay less? Makes no sense.
  • twoinanddonetwoinanddone Registered User Posts: 19,926 Senior Member
    Remember that at many large flagships, mostly freshmen live in dorms and only freshmen. There just isn't enough room for upperclassmen. And yes they get out of control too, but many search out their parties with older students off campus, at Greek housing, at age appropriate bars (may schools in the south are in towns that let 18 year olds into the clubs 'but they can't drink.' Right)
  • wis75wis75 Registered User Posts: 13,480 Senior Member
    The link in post #56 is for a 1994 study. That's more than twenty years ago.
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