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How do you help your kid deal with rejection?


Replies to: How do you help your kid deal with rejection?

  • SJ2727SJ2727 Registered User Posts: 353 Member
    @agreatstory - so well said.
  • Happytimes2001Happytimes2001 Registered User Posts: 841 Member
    @agreatstory I have a kid like that also. Despite being 15 realizes that it doesn't take much to course correct, that going out for things is what matters and if you don't make the team (it might be their loss). I love to see this evolve. I honestly think it's due to early and often competition in many things. I never would have been able to bounce back so quickly. Also, as someone else mentioned the perfect is the enemy of the good.
  • typiCAmomtypiCAmom Registered User Posts: 425 Member
    @agreatstory, I simply love your course correction analogy, thank you!

    @MAsecondtimer, thank you, likewise, I am sure D will have a great summer even if she doesn’t get into any of the programs she has applied/is applying. I am trying to see the best in everything, so I’m telling myself it’s good she was eliminated in the first round instead of the second one since now she has more incentive and time to seek out other opportunities for the summer. It will all work out in the end:)
  • websensationwebsensation Registered User Posts: 1,809 Senior Member
    edited December 6
    Yeap. If you don't try, you won't get rejected OR accepted. When my kid really wanted to get a summer internship at some place as a part of an essay contest and didn't win it, I had him contact the internship organization directly, and my kid managed to correspond with one person there who felt some sympathy for a kid who was trying hard and offered one of the internship position. Basically, that internship position started opening my kid's brain and eyes as to what was possible if he tried harder.
  • SJ2727SJ2727 Registered User Posts: 353 Member
    @MAsecondtimer ..my sister some years back was in a very similar position...except that she hated her safety. She transferred out to a top 20 after her first year, loved it and graduated magna cum laude with a scholarship for a masters lined up. Same beginning, different path - but the important thing is, both your D and my sister happy in the end. And maybe that's a lesson we can help teach students too - the first step might be different than you anticipated, but you still have control over how your path goes after that.
  • StreszedmomStreszedmom Registered User Posts: 19 Junior Member
    Our son received mostly rejections. The reason why, he applied mostly to very top Universities (6) and only 2 safeties. When he did not get into his top school (Michigan) he was very sad. I offered support and encouragement, baked him a cake with a funny quote, etc. However when he did not get into what was My top choice for him (Notre Dame) I couldn't face him. He is now at his "safety" and says everything is great. Go figure.
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