I don't know if anyone will respond but I need a place to talk about this and wondered if others might also. I have a S17 away at college finishing up his 1st semester of Sophomore year. He is thriving and everything is going his way. I think he is really happy to be away from home.
The reason is D15. She is 21 and suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, Anxiety and who know what else. Her emotional level is closer to a 15yo than a 21yo. Her birthmother and half brother suffer with the same disorders. She won't take her meds, go to the doctor, to do much that is good for her. She is terribly jealous of her younger brother and takes it out on her dad and me. Particularly me. Today she threw an ornament (soft one) at me, told me I was ruining her life because I'm never home, and told me I was awful because I said "Don't stay out to late because you need to be at work at 7am). By itself this is nothing but it goes on over and over and over for years. She is one week from finishing a class and just started a good job. This is the point she usually just doesn't show up at work or call and just quits going and the same for school. I know it is mainly over a boy that she keeps taking back even though he treats her terribly. I am just tired. I work full time and when I get home don't want to do anything. I have no motivation to get ready for Christmas. S won't even be home until a couple of days before because he is going to go visit friends. He doesn't want to be around her drama and I can't blame him. I do miss him though. Husband has distanced himself from the family emotionally because of all this. He is so fed up that everything is on me. Doctors say I can't kick her out because she will hurt herself. Tonight I just cried because I wanted to be happy and enjoy the season and there was no one to do it with. Most of our friends have distanced themselves because of her.
Anyway, this is just a thread that it is safe to vent if you have a minor meltdown dealing with a child with illness. We love them to death but with mine she doesn't see it at all. Not looking for advice or negative comments, just needing to vent. Thanks!