How important is it to help your child find a college that reflects your (the parent's) values or is in a community that reflects those values? I know of parents who select Christian colleges because those reflect their values. There also are some anecdotes of students who tried an out-of-state college but bounced back home because they felt out of place in an environment with different values. Now, we're faced with this decision too. Only, with the twist that the state in which our family lives is one where the normative values are out of line with our own. For example, our children continually are the only ones who speak up in school when their public school biology teacher says he doesn't believe in evolution or their U.S. government teacher repeats a factual untruth about current government leaders.
Although there are some decent schools in our state and it would be cheaper to go that route, I cannot help but feel strongly that I'd like them to try a different state and environment -- one at least more closely aligned to what we experienced when we grew up (and before we moved here and stayed well beyond our initial plans). My husband says that if they go the route I'm advocating, then we won't see them as often and will experience that loss. Has anyone else dealt with this issue in the college hunt process?