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How much are you involved with your high schooler in their homework

LoveToLearn99LoveToLearn99 Registered User Posts: 5 New Member

How much are you involved in your daughters/sons in their homework on daily basis?
Thank you for your insight.

Replies to: How much are you involved with your high schooler in their homework

  • SJ2727SJ2727 Registered User Posts: 1,579 Senior Member
    Zero, unless asked to help (very occasionally math, econ or proofreading). Even my 5th grader is learning to do homework with very little supervision.
  • WellspringWellspring Registered User Posts: 1,413 Senior Member
    One kid, never. The other kid, well, even our "involvement" didn't help.
  • RiversiderRiversider Registered User Posts: 565 Member
    edited May 14
    Ours stopped taking help before elementary school ended. They worked it out with trial and error method, middle school is a great time to make mistakes and develop these skills without any worries about GPA. It really helped them become independent learners and that paid off big time in high school. I don’t believe in forced spoon feeding, that only leads to eating disorders.
  • wis75wis75 Registered User Posts: 13,835 Senior Member
    None. Not even privy to what homework he had. Independent son. Like the above comment about too much help.
  • ClassicMom98ClassicMom98 Registered User Posts: 45 Junior Member
    edited May 14
    On a daily basis? None. 1st grade at the kids’ school was ridiculous. Second grade was easy compared to first. That was the year we made it clear that school was their responsibility. I would look through their folders and work on a nightly basis because I was interested, but it was their job to make sure it was all done and I had signed everything.

    But I would help with projects and studying in elementary school. That gradually whittled down to editing important papers and an occasional question/help with homework. Maybe 1-2xyear. And I stopped looking at their stuff regularly maybe in middle school? It’s hard to remember exactly.

    Edit - and no questions after 9pm for something due the next day, unless you want to see me very angry. My brain shuts down then. I never pulled an all nighter in college! And they should not have procrastinated
  • cypresspatcypresspat Registered User Posts: 64 Junior Member
    I help him figure out that the printer is out of paper once in a while. That’s it. His coaches follow progress book to make sure none of his teammates are dangling near ineligibility, so they know more than I do, generally.
  • JanieWalkerJanieWalker Registered User Posts: 404 Member
    I proofread essays for grammar and typos, and I’ll let them know if they need to fix something. I’ll say something like “this sentence doesn’t work - you need to rewrite it” or “I don’t think that conveys what you’re trying to say.” Then they go figure it out and fix it.

    I help with time management too, meaning that I’ll ask once or twice a week if everything is going okay and if we need to rearrange the family schedule to accommodate longer-than-expected assignments.
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 75,657 Senior Member
    If they asked a question, I would try to answer it...but beyond that...no involvement with homework after 2nd grade.

    The third grade teacher told us...she needed the students to do the homework without assistance. Otherwise, she would not know what the student understood, or not. She didn’t want the parent version of homework, or revisions based on the parents.

    She did say...”ask your student to check their homework.”
  • HarrietMWelschHarrietMWelsch Registered User Posts: 2,424 Senior Member
    edited May 14
    In fairness, if we could have offered any genuinely useful help with calculus, we would have, but that ship sailed 25+ years ago. :smile:

    The only homework help we offer is making sure there are plenty of things in the house he can eat, occasionally asking him if he's checked the online hw management portal, and as somebody said upthread, making sure there's printer ink and paper. Oh, and batteries for the TI-whatever. And functioning wifi.

    (I'm 100% fine with proofreading, but the one still in h.s. doesn't ask for it, though his older sibs occasionally did.)

  • austinmshauriaustinmshauri Registered User Posts: 8,449 Senior Member
    I don't think it's unusual for middle schoolers to get distracted or to like some subjects better than others. But kids are different. Eying the Ivies for a high stats older child who's willing to put in the work doesn't mean that's the right path for a younger sibling. A kid who isn't doing the minimum bears watching no matter what schools you're aiming for. Does he do well in the subjects he likes? Is it a phase or are there signs of a learning disorder?

    You're going to get better responses in both your threads if you clarify your question. What's the goal of an online school? Being allowed to take classes that interest him won't excuse your son from taking the subjects colleges require for admission. For selective universities that means 4 years of English, social studies, and science, and 3-4 of math and foreign language. But without knowing much about the struggles you're facing it's difficult to offer advice.
  • milgymfammilgymfam Registered User Posts: 529 Member
    I assign it and I grade it, and I occasionally put on my mom hat and proofread it.
  • hebegebehebegebe Registered User Posts: 2,614 Senior Member
    Kids never asked for help beyond elementary.
  • bamamom2021bamamom2021 Registered User Posts: 224 Junior Member
    With #1 she would occasionally ask us to quiz her on the stacks of flash cards she would make for APUSH or AP Euro to help her remember all the terms. Nothing else that I can remember.

    With #'2 there is no help at all except calling down to the basement at midnight that he has 15 minutes left and he has to go to bed finished or not. House rule for him on regular nights is in room by 12:30 but he typically misses that and we are good if he is upstairs by 1:00. This is only because I am a light sleeper and I don't sleep if he's milling around downstairs making noise. Too much time with ECs and too much homework jr year means not enough hours in the day. We are all up by 6and I am too old to get by on such little sleep and still keep all the other balls in the air at work and at home.
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