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Would it be weird if my parents attended my boyfriend's graduation?

Phoenixfeather94Phoenixfeather94 0 replies1 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 1 New Member
I am 25 and boyfriend is 22 (almost 23). I am currently in grad school and my boyfriend is graduating from undergrad and his ceremony is this week. We have been together for 1 year (this month is our 1 year) and just moved in together. I go to events with his family and he goes to events with my family, but our families have never met (i.e., my parents have never met his parents). His family treats me like family and my family treats him like family.

His mom asked if my parents would like to go to his graduation and come to dinner with them afterwards. My boyfriend doesn't care either way, and already has a bunch of family coming to watch him graduate (his family is very close). I asked my mom, and she said her and my dad would be available to go to the graduation and dinner. But it occurred to me - would it be weird if my parents attended, especially since they have never met anyone in his family? They also aren't that close with my boyfriend since he's a very shy person and takes a very long time to be comfortable around others. I am the only person in the entire world he's completely comfortable around. So even though he's the sweetest guy on the planet, he's still very shy around my family so they still have a lot to learn about him.

Anyways, would it be weird if they came to watch him graduate? I understand them coming to dinner because there will be tons of people there, but it just seems a bit odd if they come to his actual graduation? I've already invited them lol. If it may be a bit weird, how can I politely "uninvited" them? My boyfriend honestly doesn't care either way, but say they may get bored afterwards when they're just standing there while his family takes a billion photos lol.

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  • OhiBroOhiBro 308 replies6 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 314 Member
    edited June 12
    Absolutely not weird. No worries.

    Coming from a shy guy that went through something similar decades ago, I suggest not overthinking this. While I am still shy, life and parental experience has made social situations much easier. I suspect both families will be able to approach the situation with openness, positivity, and have a fun time.

    I would also add that my family and my wife’s family are VERY different, yet can mingle surprisingly well.
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  • MAmom111MAmom111 89 replies7 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 96 Junior Member
    No, not weird at all. I think it’s so nice that his parents invited them. They are probably well aware how quiet he is so it will be nice for them to be able to fill your parents in a bit about what he is really like. Also, it will be nice for you to have someone to talk to as his family is taking all the family pictures.
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  • bopperbopper 13872 replies98 discussionsForum Champion CWRU Posts: 13,970 Forum Champion
    I don't think it is weird either! This is a way for them to meet some people in his family.
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  • doschicosdoschicos 20260 replies209 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 20,469 Senior Member
    They must think very well of you to want to meet your family. What a nice compliment to you!
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  • SJ2727SJ2727 1686 replies6 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 1,692 Senior Member
    I don't think it's weird, and moreover it's always easier to meet people under happy circumstances like a graduation, which if nothing else at least provides talking points to kick off the sometimes awkward breaking the ice.
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  • katliamomkatliamom 12723 replies167 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 12,890 Senior Member
    Not weird. It's simply a very nice gesture on your boyfriend's mom's part to think about your parents.
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  • twoinanddonetwoinanddone 21937 replies14 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 21,951 Senior Member
    My daughter's GF's parents came to her high school graduation and to dinner with us after. They were in town for the start or her vacation, so they came.
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  • Groundwork2022Groundwork2022 1727 replies16 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 1,743 Senior Member
    It's not weird, but graduation ceremonies don't have a reputation for being particularly exciting events, at least for most of the spectators. They are known for being (or at least feeling) rather long.

    If possible (if boyfriend's family doesn't mind), give your parents the option of skipping the ceremony and just meeting up at the restaurant for dinner. If they WANT to come to the ceremony, that's perfectly okay too.
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  • TomSrOfBostonTomSrOfBoston 14633 replies974 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 15,607 Senior Member
    The only thing weird is that you think it might be weird.
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  • cptofthehousecptofthehouse 28056 replies56 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 28,112 Senior Member
    No. Though with all the graduations I’ve attended, I might meet after the ceremony
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  • momofsenior1momofsenior1 5898 replies29 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 5,927 Senior Member
    I think it’s nice that they were invited and want to come. My now in-laws came to my graduation.
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  • 3js3ks3js3ks 309 replies10 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 319 Member
    I think it would be boring/award for them to attend the actual ceremony but nice for them to go to the dinner afterwards.
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  • oldfortoldfort 22729 replies288 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 23,017 Senior Member
    If my kids have asked me to go to ther BF's graduation it would signal something to me and it would definitely signal something to his side of family too. The question is if you are at that level of relationship. I personally wouldn't want to meet my kid's SO parents until they were close to engagement. My younger daughter has been going out with someone for 3+ years and I have not met the BF's parents. If she should ask me to have dinner with his parents when they are in town then it would tell me something.
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  • stradmomstradmom 4935 replies50 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 4,985 Senior Member
    If your parents sit through the ceremony for someone they don't know because that person is important to you, you can know that they totally support your relationship. And it's a nice way for the families to share a meal and get to know one another. Also, congrats to the BF!
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