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How often do you visit your children in college?

daisy1daisy1 Registered User Posts: 30 Junior Member
edited December 2007 in Parents Forum
Just wondering... once you send your children off to college - do you visit them there? If so, how often? What do you do on your visits? How long do you stay? Where do you stay? And if you are a student - how do you feel about parents visiting you at college?
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Replies to: How often do you visit your children in college?

  • corrangedcorranged Registered User Posts: 6,684 Senior Member
    I'm a student. I usually see my parents about once every term and then during vacations, though not necessarily during the one-week Spring break. I'm a short plane flight from home, but it's not an economic hardship for my parents to fly to my school or for me to fly home for a weekend. I'm very happy with how often we see each other. Usually in the fall my parents come and visit me at school for Parent's Weekend, which falls near my birthday. I'll have dinner with them the night they arrive and then we'll usually spend the next afternoon and evening together. My parents can drive me to pick up things I need at the store or mall and take me out for some good meals. In the winter or spring I may go home for a weekend. It's good to get a short break from dorm life, which can be busy and stressful. I can just go home and enjoy the quiet for a day or two, and of course get some home-cooked meals. If my parents visit, they usually stay in a hotel downtown. We try to find a time when I don't have papers or exams early the following week. It's worked out really well so far.
  • coureurcoureur Registered User Posts: 11,386 Senior Member
    It's on the opposite coast, so I visit perhaps once a year - usually but not always in conjunction with a business trip. I stay about two days and see D usually about twice during that time. I stay in a hotel.
  • originaloogoriginaloog Registered User Posts: 2,645 Senior Member
    We are within a comfortable drive away and we have visited one time per year.
  • PackMomPackMom Registered User Posts: 7,667 Senior Member
    Have visited S (a jr) at college exactly once. It was last summer after he got back from a trip to Europe. We took him out to eat and visited a few hours. He is only 2.5 hours from home so he comes to visit us instead of us going to him.
  • Karen CollegesKaren Colleges Registered User Posts: 1,752 Senior Member
    S is half a world away. I went to visit once for parent's weekend. H visited on a different weekend on the way home from a business trip. We stayed with a family friend, S spent one night with us at the friend's house. He spent some of the weekend doing his normal routine, and had dinners with us.
  • TheAnalystTheAnalyst Registered User Posts: 2,814 Senior Member
    We see S (2nd year) a lot in the fall because we go to all of the home football games and tailgate with him, his friends, and their parents. He also sits with us during the games so he and H can talk. S says the kids don't really watch the game seriously. Last year, we only saw him once or twice in the spring passing through on our way back from the mountains for a hike--usually take him out to dinner. However, this year, H is making noises about going to some of the college basketball games. It is only an hour drive and father/son like to watch sports together. I would skip the basketball myself.

    S doesn't have a car at school and doesn't come home except on Thanksgiving and for about a week over Christmas (between skiing and back to school early for a J-term). Spring break he goes away with friends, Easter he stays at school, and he lives away from home most of summer as well.
  • violadadvioladad Registered User Posts: 6,645 Senior Member
    My son's school was an easy hour and a half drive from us, and his sister was a further hour north of that. There was a two year period when they both were in college at the same time.

    My son was a music performance major, and we took a number of trips to see his orchestral and chamber performances, as well as a couple to see a visiting artist's concert.

    My d was a starting varsity soccer player and we would see as many home games (plus the occasional away game) that our schedules permitted. At least once a season, they would have games scheduled for both Saturday and Sunday, and we would come up on a Friday night, and make a weekend of it. My son would drive up from his school and catch a game if his schedule permitted. It also worked out that if he had a performance on these weekends, we would see the game in the afternoon, and his performance in the evening.

    Real time spent with the kids was fairly minimal, and other than the actual event, was usually limited to lunch and/or dinner, and the time it took to transfer various food and drink items we had purchased in quantity to resupply their respective larders.

    D was in an animal care major, at a very dog friendly school, and we would often bring our (read as HER) Newfoundland along if we weren't making a weekend of it.
  • Singersmom07Singersmom07 Registered User Posts: 3,879 Senior Member
    Visited DD for parents weekend after she had been there for 2 months, then went to 2 performances after that. Stayed in hotel and she joined me a couple of times to get a big bed, quiet night and long hot uninterrupted shower. I combined business with the performance trips so was there a couple of nights and saw her for dinner one night or snack after the performance. One time took her shopping. Won't be there as often in spring since I will be out of the country during performance times so may only make it once.

    She seems to feel it is about right. She was home for Thanksgiving and Christmas break. Not sure about other breaks and summer plans may be in a different city. School is a 3 hr flight away but can be done cheaply with planning.
  • mathmommathmom Registered User Posts: 29,733 Senior Member
    We had a conflict with parents weekend this year so we haven't been at all. Son is more than 6 hours away in the car. I'd kind of like to visit some time this spring and actually see a bit of Pittsburgh. Don't know that we will though.
  • parentofbearparentofbear Registered User Posts: 256 Junior Member
    My own children very seldom. The neices and nephews are closer and need more help so visit them about every other month.
  • momof2incamomof2inca Registered User Posts: 3,484 Senior Member
    S attends college 6 hours away (driving). We usually go up once a year for a couple of nights (in a hotel). He comes home Thanksgiving, Winter Break, sometimes Spring Break and for a couple weeks in the summer.
  • NewHope33NewHope33 Registered User Posts: 6,208 Senior Member
    Two daughters, each five hours away. One visit each per year for three or four days, excepting the semester D#1 was ill. (Oh, and I guess I should mention the six phone calls and four emails each week.)
  • mkm56mkm56 Registered User Posts: 3,062 Senior Member
    My oldest I visited 4 times (and was within a 2 hr. drive)--once to move in, once to help move to apt, once when younger son was visiting campus and graduation/move out.

    D. I visited a 3 to 4 times a year-- she rode on collegiate equestrian team and I went to a few of her shows and we bought a condo there and occasionally went to oversee some repair etc. on condo.

    Youngest son--first 2 years was on campus probably 4 times a semester, though much of the "visits" were due to him having 2 emergency surgeries.
    This year have not been at all yet (except for move in)
  • MarilynMarilyn Registered User Posts: 2,906 Senior Member
    S is 8 hour drive or plane ride away - we visited at Parent's Weekend both last year and this, then we drive him back after winter break. He comes home for Thanksgiving, winter break, and spring break.
  • wis75wis75 Registered User Posts: 12,483 Senior Member
    Visiting consists of moving in/out, transporting for rare weekends home and vacations. It's a few hours of driving. Get to see son's room twice- move in/out days. Some lunches before leaving town. Know the town from my past, avoid invading his space. BTW, travel time is usually spent with sleeping back seat passengers.
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