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HOVERING MOMS AND DADS
ARE YOU A HELICOPTER PARENT? You've heard of them. They're in constant contact with their children and make most of the big decisions for them. And when things get tough, they're all too ready to take their children's side and fight their battles for them. They're the ever-hovering helicopter parents.
THE EFFECTS: Helicopter parenting can have negative effects for all involved, especially maturing teenagers are eager for greater independence. It's only natural to want to help your child, but helping your child become an independent adult is perhaps the most important and difficult thing you can do.
THE RIGHT BALANCE: Think of yourself as a coach. You're there to provide structure, give advice, and serve as a role model, but it's your child who needs to step up to the plate. Instead of keeping track of college application deadlines yourself, for example, work as a team to set up a calendar or weekly planner and let your child take charge of meeting those deadlines. You can also help by sharing your own strategies for staying organized.
COPTER QUIZ: Are you hovering too close during the college admissions process?
Take our test and find out.
1. Do you search college websites for your child? YES or NO
2. Do you have a strong influence over the courses your child takes? YES or NO
3. Do you play the lead role in planning your child's activities? YES or NO
4. Are you planning to prepare your child for campus interviews? YES or NO
5. Do you plan on directly contacting faculty or coaches? YES or NO
6. Do you review the publications colleges send to your child? YES or NO
7. Are you planning to write your child's application essays? YES or NO
8. Do you meet with the high school counselor without your child present? YES or NO
9. Have you helped your child find a job? YES or NO
If you answered YES to more than half of these questions you are hovering and may jeopardize your child from growing into a self-sufficient adult.