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Another way to save on tuition.

newmassdadnewmassdad Registered User Posts: 3,848 Senior Member
edited April 2005 in Parents Forum
Life has taken an interesting turn for my family in a happy/sad way. I've been offered, and accepted, a position at my D's college. This involves a move, of course, but it is a move to a city where spouse grew up, and nearer to my own family (not to mention D).

The curious thing was my D's reaction, which my spouse feared. When I said we might move to the same town, she said "great, I can come by for dinner once in a while". When I said I might work at her U, she said "good, we can have lunch."

She just had her last visit to the house she spent her formative years in, and she could care less. By the time the term finishes for her, we will probably be moved. But she has already told us she likes her new city better.

The sad part? We like where we are, we like our current jobs (but mine would undergo a huge change in a month or so) and don't really want to move. But life goes on.

Oh yeah, the new job comes with half off tuition.

So if I vanish from this scene in a month or so, it's due to moving.
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  • msteemstee Registered User Posts: 3,136 Senior Member
    Wow, congratulations! And half off tution, too, not bad!
  • dstarkdstark Registered User Posts: 34,241 Senior Member
    Sounds good to me. Congratulations.
  • JeepMOMJeepMOM Registered User Posts: 2,499 Senior Member
    Wow - sounds great to me too - If I could get away with that I might consider it - but Dd would - I am sure - have other ideas lol.
  • wish_it_was_aprilwish_it_was_april Registered User Posts: 603 Member
    Congratulations! My D started grad school at the U where my H teaches, and it is delightful to have her in the same city again. She often drops in around lunchtime and he takes her out. Then I get jealous because he sees her more than I do. The tuition break is nice too!

    For all you faculty folks/spouses out there, you may know about a program called Semester At Sea. They hire faculty for a term who teach classes aboard a cruise ship. I went to a meeting with H - boy, did it sound good! You get to travel, they do the cooking AND laundry, and faculty kids get a tuition break. But I am sure S would never go for it.... wouldn't want us that close during his college years. But even without the tuition break, it still seems like a great deal, esp. for the spouse if she/he can go along!
  • xiggixiggi Registered User Posts: 25,441 Senior Member
    Geewhiz, Massdad, I counted on you to give me all the inside scoop on Boston!

    I am glad to read that your family will be reunited. Besides 1/2 tuition, you'll save a bundle on airfare as well.

    Best of wishes for the upcoming changes in career and cities.
  • berurahberurah - Posts: 4,560 Senior Member

    What an interesting and exciting turn of events! Our kids really surprise us sometimes with their reactions, don't they? I congratulate you on your new position and I wish you all the best in your upcoming move. And anyway, you've given me some ideas...now, if I can just find something that I can do at Duke......*lol*

    All my best, ~berurah
  • xiggixiggi Registered User Posts: 25,441 Senior Member
    Berurah, Rachel Toor is not coming back in the admission office -thank God for applicants. So, the Blue Devils may have an opening in the office. :)

    Congratulations on the Duke acceptance -with my apologies to NMD for hijacking his thread.
  • simbasimba Registered User Posts: 6,092 Senior Member
    wow newmassdad, you are a prof.....when I read your post the image of a nutty professor flashed before me.

    Congratulations and best wishes in your new job.
  • jmmomjmmom Registered User Posts: 9,084 Senior Member
    She just had her last visit to the house she spent her formative years in, and she could care less.
    They do surprise us. For several years, H was itching to move out of our large house, but I resisted not wanting to uproot S from neighborhood friends, etc. When we finally did move, after he got his driver's license, he was the one champing at the bit to get in to the new house (we did some remodeling before we could actually move and he couldn't stand the wait). Never looked back.

    Good luck on your adventure.
  • NorthstarmomNorthstarmom Registered User Posts: 24,853 Senior Member
    Congratulations! Sounds like a great opportunity for you and for your family.
  • bluealien01bluealien01 Registered User Posts: 1,941 Senior Member
    Another way to save on tuition.

    Don't pay it? :D
  • BassDadBassDad Registered User Posts: 5,381 Senior Member

    My parents did a similar thing and moved about 25 miles away from the college I attended a month before I started there. My father eventually got a job with that school as well. I saw a bit more of them than I otherwise might have in my first year, but after that I was so involved at school that it did not make much of a difference.

    One negative was that my father had a position as head of Safety and Security, so I was under orders big-time not to get into any trouble. He made it very clear that he would not be able to cut me an inch of slack, just to prove that he was not showing favoritism.

    The other negative was that I had to paint the new house over my first spring break, which prevented me from accepting an offer to go on tour with the Women's Chorus as a stage hand and part-time soloist. Eight days, seven states, one bus, 45 young ladies looking for something to do between concerts and two guys, the other one driving most of the time. Sigh.
  • sluggbuggsluggbugg Registered User Posts: 1,101 Senior Member
    Massdad, congrats, dude! :) Start packing boxes and throwing out all of the **** you've accumulated over the years. See, here's how I look at things...your D's reaction could have been something quite different. Upon delivering the good news that you'll be moving to the same town, she could have screamed and dropped the phone while running out of her apartment pleading to God in Heaven that no matter how hard she tries, she can't get away from her PARENTS!!! That would have been a different reaction altogether.

    But, instead you got something quite lovely, even if it was inviting herself to dinner. :) Can't complain about that. Good luck with the move! We'll keep your spot on the bench warm while you're away.
  • msteemstee Registered User Posts: 3,136 Senior Member
    Sluggbugg--you're describing the reaction I imagine my S would have if we told him we were moving to Chicago, LOL. I agree that Newmassdad's situation sounds lovely, as you say. Wonder if my S and Newmassdad will cross paths at some point? Newmassdad--he's the skinny one in a baggy sweatshirt with the uncombed hair that doesn't talk--unless you get him started on computers or Feynman or some such. . .
  • kissykissy Registered User Posts: 198 Junior Member
    Massdad-congrats! It's obvious your D is happy at UC and will be thrilled having you nearby. Good luck on the move and keep us posted on the Chicago roadwork this summer!
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